"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

Weird things happening... (long)

T

theguy351

Don Juan
Joined
Jun 27, 2007
Messages
186
Reaction score
0
Location
NY
Ok, i;ve had some posts here and on the main DJ board, but since i am 17 and she is 16 , it best suits this forum. This girl I was introduced to by my brothers girlfriend has hung with us three times now, always in a group of 4 or more. Well my bros girlfriend told him that she likes me and stuff, and i honestly really like her. It is hard for me, since i am inexperieinced to be effectionite in public with her since we are not really comfortable around eachother yet. She is going away for a week from this saturday to next saturday so the next chance I get to see her is next sunday, probally later. It is really weird because normally when girls like me they touch me alot and flirt so much and stuff. She is kind of diferent and off-beat (which is part of the reason i like her) and she doesnt flirt like other girls have with me in the past. Well normally if she was all over me i'd be all over her in turn, but since she hasnt really touched me a whole lot (except for in the car she got scared -we were in back seat- and she was holding on to me).
So I need some advice, discussion about this to fuel my fire.

I also hope she doesnt lose interest while she is away, so I was thinking I would send her a few texts and ring her up a few times. I was also planning on teling her that when she gets back we have to hang out, just us, so it is more a date atmsosphere, which would lead to more touching and romantics and stuff, escpecially on my part (idk y but i am so different with girls alone, than with other people, notin a bad way, its just i never have a steady g.f so its a lil different for me). Im wondering if that is a good idea.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

R

RAFCbearfilm

Don Juan
Joined
Apr 4, 2005
Messages
103
Reaction score
0
Age
58
Location
Mpls
First - read the Kino posts and learn how to gradually escalate.
Second - do not wait for her, ring her if you like while shes away, but DO NOT let other women pass you by till she gets back. Life is short and at your age it is the absolute BEST time to get out there and meet lots of women. If she comes back and you are still interested, great. Stay busy and stay focused and LOOK for other women to hang with. I repeat DO NOT wait for her to come back, that is one GIANT leap to AFC'ism.
Be glad you have this tool to use at 17, I would have loved to had this site available to me at that age.
 
T

theguy351

Don Juan
Joined
Jun 27, 2007
Messages
186
Reaction score
0
Location
NY
yea thanks...im deff gonna try and get some other girls to chill while she is gone....
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

You must log in or register to reply here.
22 Rules for Massive Success With Women
Top