Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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theguy351

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Ok, i;ve had some posts here and on the main DJ board, but since i am 17 and she is 16 , it best suits this forum. This girl I was introduced to by my brothers girlfriend has hung with us three times now, always in a group of 4 or more. Well my bros girlfriend told him that she likes me and stuff, and i honestly really like her. It is hard for me, since i am inexperieinced to be effectionite in public with her since we are not really comfortable around eachother yet. She is going away for a week from this saturday to next saturday so the next chance I get to see her is next sunday, probally later. It is really weird because normally when girls like me they touch me alot and flirt so much and stuff. She is kind of diferent and off-beat (which is part of the reason i like her) and she doesnt flirt like other girls have with me in the past. Well normally if she was all over me i'd be all over her in turn, but since she hasnt really touched me a whole lot (except for in the car she got scared -we were in back seat- and she was holding on to me).
So I need some advice, discussion about this to fuel my fire.

I also hope she doesnt lose interest while she is away, so I was thinking I would send her a few texts and ring her up a few times. I was also planning on teling her that when she gets back we have to hang out, just us, so it is more a date atmsosphere, which would lead to more touching and romantics and stuff, escpecially on my part (idk y but i am so different with girls alone, than with other people, notin a bad way, its just i never have a steady g.f so its a lil different for me). Im wondering if that is a good idea.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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First - read the Kino posts and learn how to gradually escalate.
Second - do not wait for her, ring her if you like while shes away, but DO NOT let other women pass you by till she gets back. Life is short and at your age it is the absolute BEST time to get out there and meet lots of women. If she comes back and you are still interested, great. Stay busy and stay focused and LOOK for other women to hang with. I repeat DO NOT wait for her to come back, that is one GIANT leap to AFC'ism.
Be glad you have this tool to use at 17, I would have loved to had this site available to me at that age.
 

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yea thanks...im deff gonna try and get some other girls to chill while she is gone....
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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