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Besides ignoring her? I was thinking get another couple of girls but I want to just rub it in her face almost. Or would a real DJ not do this... Haha.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Ways to let a girl know you are "over it" without actually telling her?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
lets_do_this
Don Juan
elaborate more on the situation. i dont exactly see what you are asking.
lets_do_this
Don Juan
this is exactly how i felt about this thread in my above post. glad someone feels the same way.
Huh?
You want to show her that you're over her but you wanna rub it in her face?
Who the hell broke the relationship off in the first place? If it's her, then you're clearly not over her. If it's you, then you're just mean.
You want to show her that you're over her but you wanna rub it in her face?
Who the hell broke the relationship off in the first place? If it's her, then you're clearly not over her. If it's you, then you're just mean.
lets_do_this
Don Juan
1 thing i can say. If she was the one who dumped you (she probably did), then your actions mean you still care.
Ignoring would be the only solution.
By your post, you wanna convince yourself ur over her. Ur not over her... Not yet.
Ignoring would be the only solution.
By your post, you wanna convince yourself ur over her. Ur not over her... Not yet.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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Listen:
There was no relationship. A friend of this girl told me that another guy was trying to get with her. She keeps blowing me off but tells ANOTHER friend that she liked me? I don't get her. So i'm over it. Officially. Don't trip anymore.
There was no relationship. A friend of this girl told me that another guy was trying to get with her. She keeps blowing me off but tells ANOTHER friend that she liked me? I don't get her. So i'm over it. Officially. Don't trip anymore.
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And are you guys being serious? We weren't "EXCLUSIVE". Open your eyes.
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And I'm sure you all have the backstory on this girl from the previous thread I made and that was why you responded with those types of comments. Can we agree?
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You can't show her you don't care without not actually caring. If you don't care, then your natural actions should indicate so.
However, since you seem to be so eager to show her that you don't care, then you probably still do care.
However, since you seem to be so eager to show her that you don't care, then you probably still do care.
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I'll be honest. I want her.. eventually I'll get her. I just want to make her jealous right now so she'll sweat and want it. Tips?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Okay. I never did read your previous thread. Or I might have not remembered it.
However, the point of the advice that should be given to you is that rubbing things in a person's face is always pointless. It serves no purpose other than for self-gratification of an egotistical mentality.
Those that understand the uselessness of rubbing things in a person's face are disgusted by people thinking of doing it.
Granted, the advice should've been explained a little clearer, but it seems that a lot of us here have lost quite a bit of patience with these kinds of threads.
I hope you understand the point here.
However, the point of the advice that should be given to you is that rubbing things in a person's face is always pointless. It serves no purpose other than for self-gratification of an egotistical mentality.
Those that understand the uselessness of rubbing things in a person's face are disgusted by people thinking of doing it.
Granted, the advice should've been explained a little clearer, but it seems that a lot of us here have lost quite a bit of patience with these kinds of threads.
I hope you understand the point here.
In your case, I would just move on.
In the case that you actually had a relationship and wanted to dump her say something like this.
"I think we should take a break from each other. "
then move her to the bottom of your list and go out on a few more dates.
I would also add, "when I put my arms around you I just don't feel like I'm your man. I could be wrong, but something isn't right."
That will put the onus on her to make you feel like her man.
If she doesn't then you continue with your break.
In the case that you actually had a relationship and wanted to dump her say something like this.
"I think we should take a break from each other. "
then move her to the bottom of your list and go out on a few more dates.
I would also add, "when I put my arms around you I just don't feel like I'm your man. I could be wrong, but something isn't right."
That will put the onus on her to make you feel like her man.
If she doesn't then you continue with your break.
Start seeing someone else. Whenever I get a girlfriend I get a load of women fighting for my attention and girls I've previously been involved with come crawling back.
It's a strange phenomenon, but becoming unavailable is like a powerful aphrodisiac.
DonJuanMonk
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what the fuk do you want moron?
If you try to put on an act, she'll pick up on it. Just ignore her and genuinely avoid her. Women are masters when it comes to subtle attention-getting, so none of the stunts you pull will be undetected or new to her.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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quoted for truth. thanks. this is what i was looking for.
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Word man thanks.