cobra commander
Don Juan
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Besides ignoring her? I was thinking get another couple of girls but I want to just rub it in her face almost. Or would a real DJ not do this... Haha.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
this is exactly how i felt about this thread in my above post. glad someone feels the same way.Originally posted by dementia
I dont get it. You wanna show a chick that you dont like her and hurt her feelings. Did she do something that hurt your fragile ego??
I dunno man. I personally dont have the time or energy to bother with that kinda **** so i got no advice for you.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Start seeing someone else. Whenever I get a girlfriend I get a load of women fighting for my attention and girls I've previously been involved with come crawling back.Originally posted by cobra commander
I'll be honest. I want her.. eventually I'll get her. I just want to make her jealous right now so she'll sweat and want it. Tips?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
quoted for truth. thanks. this is what i was looking for.Originally posted by Jariel
Start seeing someone else. Whenever I get a girlfriend I get a load of women fighting for my attention and girls I've previously been involved with come crawling back.
It's a strange phenomenon, but becoming unavailable is like a powerful aphrodisiac.
Word man thanks.Originally posted by 00Kevin
In your case, I would just move on.
In the case that you actually had a relationship and wanted to dump her say something like this.
"I think we should take a break from each other. "
then move her to the bottom of your list and go out on a few more dates.
I would also add, "when I put my arms around you I just don't feel like I'm your man. I could be wrong, but something isn't right."
That will put the onus on her to make you feel like her man.
If she doesn't then you continue with your break.