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Besides ignoring her? I was thinking get another couple of girls but I want to just rub it in her face almost. Or would a real DJ not do this... Haha.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Ways to let a girl know you are "over it" without actually telling her?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
lets_do_this
Don Juan
elaborate more on the situation. i dont exactly see what you are asking.
lets_do_this
Don Juan
this is exactly how i felt about this thread in my above post. glad someone feels the same way.
Huh?
You want to show her that you're over her but you wanna rub it in her face?
Who the hell broke the relationship off in the first place? If it's her, then you're clearly not over her. If it's you, then you're just mean.
You want to show her that you're over her but you wanna rub it in her face?
Who the hell broke the relationship off in the first place? If it's her, then you're clearly not over her. If it's you, then you're just mean.
lets_do_this
Don Juan
1 thing i can say. If she was the one who dumped you (she probably did), then your actions mean you still care.
Ignoring would be the only solution.
By your post, you wanna convince yourself ur over her. Ur not over her... Not yet.
Ignoring would be the only solution.
By your post, you wanna convince yourself ur over her. Ur not over her... Not yet.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Listen:
There was no relationship. A friend of this girl told me that another guy was trying to get with her. She keeps blowing me off but tells ANOTHER friend that she liked me? I don't get her. So i'm over it. Officially. Don't trip anymore.
There was no relationship. A friend of this girl told me that another guy was trying to get with her. She keeps blowing me off but tells ANOTHER friend that she liked me? I don't get her. So i'm over it. Officially. Don't trip anymore.
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And are you guys being serious? We weren't "EXCLUSIVE". Open your eyes.
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And I'm sure you all have the backstory on this girl from the previous thread I made and that was why you responded with those types of comments. Can we agree?
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You can't show her you don't care without not actually caring. If you don't care, then your natural actions should indicate so.
However, since you seem to be so eager to show her that you don't care, then you probably still do care.
However, since you seem to be so eager to show her that you don't care, then you probably still do care.
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I'll be honest. I want her.. eventually I'll get her. I just want to make her jealous right now so she'll sweat and want it. Tips?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Okay. I never did read your previous thread. Or I might have not remembered it.
However, the point of the advice that should be given to you is that rubbing things in a person's face is always pointless. It serves no purpose other than for self-gratification of an egotistical mentality.
Those that understand the uselessness of rubbing things in a person's face are disgusted by people thinking of doing it.
Granted, the advice should've been explained a little clearer, but it seems that a lot of us here have lost quite a bit of patience with these kinds of threads.
I hope you understand the point here.
However, the point of the advice that should be given to you is that rubbing things in a person's face is always pointless. It serves no purpose other than for self-gratification of an egotistical mentality.
Those that understand the uselessness of rubbing things in a person's face are disgusted by people thinking of doing it.
Granted, the advice should've been explained a little clearer, but it seems that a lot of us here have lost quite a bit of patience with these kinds of threads.
I hope you understand the point here.
In your case, I would just move on.
In the case that you actually had a relationship and wanted to dump her say something like this.
"I think we should take a break from each other. "
then move her to the bottom of your list and go out on a few more dates.
I would also add, "when I put my arms around you I just don't feel like I'm your man. I could be wrong, but something isn't right."
That will put the onus on her to make you feel like her man.
If she doesn't then you continue with your break.
In the case that you actually had a relationship and wanted to dump her say something like this.
"I think we should take a break from each other. "
then move her to the bottom of your list and go out on a few more dates.
I would also add, "when I put my arms around you I just don't feel like I'm your man. I could be wrong, but something isn't right."
That will put the onus on her to make you feel like her man.
If she doesn't then you continue with your break.
Start seeing someone else. Whenever I get a girlfriend I get a load of women fighting for my attention and girls I've previously been involved with come crawling back.
It's a strange phenomenon, but becoming unavailable is like a powerful aphrodisiac.
DonJuanMonk
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what the fuk do you want moron?
If you try to put on an act, she'll pick up on it. Just ignore her and genuinely avoid her. Women are masters when it comes to subtle attention-getting, so none of the stunts you pull will be undetected or new to her.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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quoted for truth. thanks. this is what i was looking for.
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Word man thanks.