mahon83050
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What do you guys say to yourself when you start feeling AFC or have AFC thoughts. Lately, I just yell at myself...."You are thinking AFC again, snap out of it." You are the great catch."
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Ways to break AFC thinking?
- Thread starter mahon83050
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Dust 2 Dust
Master Don Juan
Go into the Dj bible and print out "Kill that desperation" by pook and "Death of an AFC" by wildthang. . Whenever you feel a bout of inner AFC coming on all you have to do is read.
TDK4
Don Juan
When I start to get those feelings I ignore what my head is telling me and I listen to my gut, the truth. I realize that if i give into those cowardly feelings then ill just end up lonely like I have so many times in the past.
Page
Master Don Juan
I don't have AFC thoughts anymore b/c I have utterly destroyed that part of my mentality. I am a DJ through and through, and there is no going back.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
thecraftylefty
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It's hard at first to break your AFC tendancies. Really hard. But with more time and more experience those thoughts hardly ever occur. You must have the mindset that you will do whatever it takes to get past your self-limiting beliefs and be in control of what you want. You MUST KNOW you can do it, and YOU WILL do it. If you have the drive anything is possible.
Here's small quote my cross country coach used to tell our team: the body achieves what the mind believes.
"If your rap is strong it can't go wrong."
thecraftylefty
Here's small quote my cross country coach used to tell our team: the body achieves what the mind believes.
"If your rap is strong it can't go wrong."
thecraftylefty
terminator911
Master Don Juan
Some guy (don't remember who it was) posted this a long time ago and it went something like this... When he was feeding his head with AFC thoughts about approaching girls or anything related to it he would use the 3 second rule and said these words in his head: "FU*CK IT, LET'S GET IT OVER WITH" and did his thing. Works wonders.
hitop
Senior Don Juan
Bro, just get a grip of yourself and Man Up. 'Nuff said.
Unbridled_1
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Mahon's post was classic...