"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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sbgm

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Just want to get this out.

Got invited to a girl last saturday night. I was a bit drunk (35-40cl vodka I usually drink about 20cl to get tipsy) and this girl was sober. So we talked and watched a movie, and made out. We watched a movie and I couldn't follow it, I was so drunk I didn't understand a bit of it - probably also fell asleep.

Well, everything is fine, I leave at 8 in the morning because I was feeling so hungover, and the day after i texted her if she wanted to grab some coffee.

She texts me back "I'm not interesting in seeing you anymore".

Now two days after, she's writing this texts on her facebook wall with her friend telling her in marvelous details how awful I was and that she will never make out again.

WTF IS WRONG WITH THIS SH!T??

Guess I've learned something, there's a reason for not kissing on the first - or second date and never go home to a girl drunk when she's sober.

Peace
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Sounds like she wasn't impressed with your drinking, or at least you're getting overly drunk. Shows you can't control yourself.

Also, generally not a good idea to fall asleep on a girl at her house on a first date, unless you've had sex..
 

sbgm

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Haha, yep I know :p But shouldn't the text msg be enough? Why the facebook wall harassment?
 

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sbgm said:
So we talked and watched a movie, and made out. We watched a movie and I couldn't follow it, I was so drunk I didn't understand a bit of it - probably also fell asleep.
Are you sure that's all that happened? Maybe you tried to get a little too "touchy feely" with her but you don't remember... ;)

Also, was this an already established acquaintance/friend? Or did you "friend" her first on Facebook. I have an ironclad rule when it comes to Facebook and Plates: Never friend your plates on Facebook.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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