"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Wasting time

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Is it a good idea to ask a woman if you're just wasting you're time with them?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Life's short quit wasting your time. I think that answers your question no?
 

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cognac said:
Is it a good idea to ask a woman if you're just wasting you're time with them?

You shouldn't have to ask you should KNOW.

This is a question the women ask. My last girl told me she is "Wasting her time" because I wouldn't let the leech move in and live off my back.
 

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If you are fvcking her (and assuming she is reasonably attractive) how is it that you are wasting your time?
 

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If you feel the need to ask that question, the answer is always yes.

Never ask a woman this; all you are doing is confirming for her that she controls the frame and you need to qualify yourself to her. If this is even entering into your head you've already lost the frame.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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cognac said:
Is it a good idea to ask a woman if you're just wasting you're time with them?
Never ask a woman anything about relationships ... you'll just screw it up :)

Trust me, they will move things along (ie "talk") if they want to advance the relationship - this one is obvious.

But they will start acting odd (less talk, mismatched actions) if they're wanting to eject. Most guys misread this, try to apply logic (ie talk, negotiate, etc) trying to solve it. The truly aware guy reads this signal and pulls away w/o asking any questions - simpler and easier for both parties in the end. Not many guys do this though.
 

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Ok. Well she asked me what i want from her. And said she's not sure what I expect. lol. How do I answer that without seeming like a wussy? I mean should I just tell her what i want and what i expect?
 
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Sinistar said:
Trust me, they will move things along (ie "talk") if they want to advance the relationship - this one is obvious.
Truth.


A man puts his bid in and the women will accept or reject. You will know quickly by her words AND actions.

No need to ask.

As a man, you must make your intentions clear after a short time of building comfort. Then you will get your answer shorty thereafter.
 

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I told her: You're beautiful on the inside and out. And has the personality to go with it. So in essence I want the package deal. And that's what I want.

Was that a bit overboard? I was being honest when I said it. I'm just so damn attracted to her. Mind you I'm dating some other women but nothing serious.
 

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Sinistar said:
Never ask a woman anything about relationships ... you'll just screw it up :)

Trust me, they will move things along (ie "talk") if they want to advance the relationship - this one is obvious.

But they will start acting odd (less talk, mismatched actions) if they're wanting to eject. Most guys misread this, try to apply logic (ie talk, negotiate, etc) trying to solve it. The truly aware guy reads this signal and pulls away w/o asking any questions - simpler and easier for both parties in the end. Not many guys do this though.
Yep, a woman who wants to increase the intensity and forward velocity will send you unmistakeable signals.
However, when a woman's interest in you has tanked, or is spiralling downwards, she will send "distancing " signals in covert ways. Women often reject a guy in instalments. The first instalment is often," I have been soooo busy".

Take the hint and learn to translate "womanspeek".

BTW, read the last part of my signature.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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She's not creating distance between us. She does have a lot of crap going on though. But she keeps in contact normally. Like I said earlier she asked me what I want and what I expect. I told her what I previously stated. Was it a good move telling her that?
 
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