"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Was she just bored or what?

ARrocket

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Went out with a girl a few weeks ago....lots of kino, and she was reacting well, but I think she MAY have already LJBF me before that....I wish I had kissed her during the date, because at the end, it was just impossible because of logistics. Trust me on that. I was kinda upset because while dropping her off at her place (she doesn't drive....dammit), my friend called me and asked how it went...and asked if I went in for the kiss...and I think she might have heard. Not sure. But she got pretty quiet for about 5 min...but then after that seemed back to normal.

So, she sent me a text the next day...we went back and forth a couple times, but then she never replied. Ok, fine. A week later I sent a text (I was at her old job, just wanted to tell her that).

So...no contact until this afternoon. She asked me what I'm up to tonight, and I said I wouldn't know for a few hours, and asked why she was asking (this is through text). She said she wanted to do something that night, and wasn't sure what...I told her "well I should be able to make some time Sunday night, give me a call if you want some excitement ;) " She said "whatever. I'm going out with the girls." I told her have fun, she said she would, and I left it at that. I don't plan on calling her anytime soon...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Would you advise calling her in a couple of weeks if she doesn't contact me? Or should I just leave it at that and move on (I'm leaving the state in a month anyway...although I'll be back often).
 

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Hmmm....well today she texts me with "the movie starts at 6:55 tomorrow." I say "wow that's an aggressive way to start a conversation ;) "

And she says "lol, will I see you there?" I tell her I'll let her know tomorrow. But she wants me to invite others. I won't.
 

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Well done because you have her thinknig. Before she thought she was in control and know you are. If you did go out with her make she you do not contact he for a few days after the ngith. Let her do all of the work.
 
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