I don't go clubbing a lot, but I've noticed that when I do go and I haven't been in a while it takes a while to get warmed up to be able to effectively approach and engage women. If I go out the next night I am much more effective because I'm used to the situation. I guess I should start going to the same club on a consistent basis. Is there any other advice you guys can give such as psyching yourself up to go out or something?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Think about all those women getting ready for the club, hours of makeup, days spend shopping and years spend in gym, just so that they can look good FOR YOU. Understand all the effort they put in and make sure that when you do go to a club you can match that. Clubs are numbers game so it takes a lot of effort and energy to walk out a winner, BUT IT CAN BE DONE IT'S UP TO YOU TO STEP UP! You gotta be ready to approach any woman that looks good and your enthusiasm about it must be so strong and contagious, that you can take any rejection and laugh about it and just approach next cutie.
Which club you should go to? The one that plays the music and has the atmosphere that suits you the best, you must be having fun yourself in order for women to have fun with you.
Good luck
Which club you should go to? The one that plays the music and has the atmosphere that suits you the best, you must be having fun yourself in order for women to have fun with you.
Good luck
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Learn what nights are busy for what club, and go on them. Have 4-5 clubs that you go to all the time, and get to know the regulars (not just women). That way, when you enter, you automatically see familiar faces, get props, and catch up with old friends. This not only makes you feel comfortable at the club (since you know so many people there), but it also makes you look good in the eyes of female observers (you know lots of people, and you're a confident person that makes friends easy - i.e. not a shy afc that sits in the corner).
Also, get to know the bouncers, bartenders, etc. The more people you know in the club, the more comfortable/confident you will feel when you approach women. It's YOUR turf after all.
Also, get to know the bouncers, bartenders, etc. The more people you know in the club, the more comfortable/confident you will feel when you approach women. It's YOUR turf after all.
MindOverMatter is giving you great advice, use it. I just started going to a regular club alone 2 weeks ago. The first week was fairly rough, but the 2nd week I saw a lot of familiar faces, who's hand I shook and let them know I saw them there last week. I even ended up flirting with a few girls. I can't wait to go again this week!
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Marko's pretty much right-on.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.