I don't go clubbing a lot, but I've noticed that when I do go and I haven't been in a while it takes a while to get warmed up to be able to effectively approach and engage women. If I go out the next night I am much more effective because I'm used to the situation. I guess I should start going to the same club on a consistent basis. Is there any other advice you guys can give such as psyching yourself up to go out or something?
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Warming up for clubbing
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
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Think about all those women getting ready for the club, hours of makeup, days spend shopping and years spend in gym, just so that they can look good FOR YOU. Understand all the effort they put in and make sure that when you do go to a club you can match that. Clubs are numbers game so it takes a lot of effort and energy to walk out a winner, BUT IT CAN BE DONE IT'S UP TO YOU TO STEP UP! You gotta be ready to approach any woman that looks good and your enthusiasm about it must be so strong and contagious, that you can take any rejection and laugh about it and just approach next cutie.
Which club you should go to? The one that plays the music and has the atmosphere that suits you the best, you must be having fun yourself in order for women to have fun with you.
Good luck
Which club you should go to? The one that plays the music and has the atmosphere that suits you the best, you must be having fun yourself in order for women to have fun with you.
Good luck
MindOverMatter
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Learn what nights are busy for what club, and go on them. Have 4-5 clubs that you go to all the time, and get to know the regulars (not just women). That way, when you enter, you automatically see familiar faces, get props, and catch up with old friends. This not only makes you feel comfortable at the club (since you know so many people there), but it also makes you look good in the eyes of female observers (you know lots of people, and you're a confident person that makes friends easy - i.e. not a shy afc that sits in the corner).
Also, get to know the bouncers, bartenders, etc. The more people you know in the club, the more comfortable/confident you will feel when you approach women. It's YOUR turf after all.
Also, get to know the bouncers, bartenders, etc. The more people you know in the club, the more comfortable/confident you will feel when you approach women. It's YOUR turf after all.
MindOverMatter is giving you great advice, use it. I just started going to a regular club alone 2 weeks ago. The first week was fairly rough, but the 2nd week I saw a lot of familiar faces, who's hand I shook and let them know I saw them there last week. I even ended up flirting with a few girls. I can't wait to go again this week!
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Marko's pretty much right-on.
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