I don't go clubbing a lot, but I've noticed that when I do go and I haven't been in a while it takes a while to get warmed up to be able to effectively approach and engage women. If I go out the next night I am much more effective because I'm used to the situation. I guess I should start going to the same club on a consistent basis. Is there any other advice you guys can give such as psyching yourself up to go out or something?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Warming up for clubbing
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Think about all those women getting ready for the club, hours of makeup, days spend shopping and years spend in gym, just so that they can look good FOR YOU. Understand all the effort they put in and make sure that when you do go to a club you can match that. Clubs are numbers game so it takes a lot of effort and energy to walk out a winner, BUT IT CAN BE DONE IT'S UP TO YOU TO STEP UP! You gotta be ready to approach any woman that looks good and your enthusiasm about it must be so strong and contagious, that you can take any rejection and laugh about it and just approach next cutie.
Which club you should go to? The one that plays the music and has the atmosphere that suits you the best, you must be having fun yourself in order for women to have fun with you.
Good luck
Which club you should go to? The one that plays the music and has the atmosphere that suits you the best, you must be having fun yourself in order for women to have fun with you.
Good luck
MindOverMatter
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Learn what nights are busy for what club, and go on them. Have 4-5 clubs that you go to all the time, and get to know the regulars (not just women). That way, when you enter, you automatically see familiar faces, get props, and catch up with old friends. This not only makes you feel comfortable at the club (since you know so many people there), but it also makes you look good in the eyes of female observers (you know lots of people, and you're a confident person that makes friends easy - i.e. not a shy afc that sits in the corner).
Also, get to know the bouncers, bartenders, etc. The more people you know in the club, the more comfortable/confident you will feel when you approach women. It's YOUR turf after all.
Also, get to know the bouncers, bartenders, etc. The more people you know in the club, the more comfortable/confident you will feel when you approach women. It's YOUR turf after all.
MindOverMatter is giving you great advice, use it. I just started going to a regular club alone 2 weeks ago. The first week was fairly rough, but the 2nd week I saw a lot of familiar faces, who's hand I shook and let them know I saw them there last week. I even ended up flirting with a few girls. I can't wait to go again this week!
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Marko's pretty much right-on.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.