So there is this girl I'm interested in. But she's not the usual skank...she seems pretty down to earth. I'm guessing she is getting a lot of emails, but I really want mine to stand out. She's 45 miles away from me, and says she wants someone within 10 miles, so I'm hoping that she won't worry about that too much. She really likes sports so maybe I can say, "hey want to go to a ____'s game?" Should I even talk about her kid?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Want to hit up a HB10 single mom on Match...need advice
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
you're trolling right? Send her a cut-and-paste and forget about her until/unless she responds. Send that cut-and-paste to 19 more women today. Then send it to 20 women every day for the next week.
You're doing it wrong. If you're even serious.
You're doing it wrong. If you're even serious.
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BeDJ
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I love sports = I love my plethora of male attention. GO PATRISAINTS!
Peaks&Valleys
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Don't do this.skinnyguy said:
Or thisskinnyguy said:
Or thisZarky said:
This. Actually send her this. Best chance at a responseBeDJ said:
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Are you a male 10? Well, you gotta send out a message in order to get a chance at winning. Don't do anything beta.