"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
(Wanna Be)Smart asses on the Boards are
- Thread starter S-lemond
- Start date
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Yes, I do believe we share a similar philosophy and it's no coincidence as you have been a particular inspiration and help to me on this board. Your photo is definitely congruent with what you teach and I have to agree it's one of the reasons I've always paid so much attention to your advice. It's easy to believe that women fall over you without much effort, and in my eyes, that's the peak of being a "DJ" and everything I want from this community. So I've gladly taken your advice and followed your philosophy and I believe there are many others (esp the H&F regulars) who think the same.
I also agree that I am not going to take the advice of just anybody who speaks a big game without some kind of evidence. I actually did that a lot when I started here and tested almost every theory and acted on every piece of advice I was given...and I paid for it quite harshly at times. Luckily I have a bit more conviction in myself and more experience under my belt these days, but it does worry me that some other newbies will do the same and risk destroying a relationship or their confidence as a result. It's scary because some guys who come here have serious issues, with some verging on suicidal and these braggart theorists could do more harm than they realise.
However, I generally think it's wise for people just to treat these as discussion boards, rather than professional councelling and guidance columns.
lurker
Senior Don Juan
pook
vassago
giovanni
playersupreme
sirchancelaot
adonis
mrfingers
Some of these guys showed prove of picture and some did not pook never showed any prove as far as i know and he is till respected* i may be wrong? it goes both ways me thinks posting a picture with a girl does not, i repeat does not make you a dj
he he he you all think im a newbies.
so the saying you are who your friends are is only partly true or whats your take on it?
btw what does this mean when im not envious nor putting guys with game on a pedestal(have done this before) only having respect and being interested, does this mean i have game myself or what huuummm interesting
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Originally posted by lurker
I HAVE been a lurking for 4 years here and to me the only people with real game here are
pook
vassago
giovanni
playersupreme
sirchancelaot
adonis
mrfingers
Some of these guys showed prove of picture and some did not pook never showed any prove as far as i know and he is till respected* i may be wrong? it goes both ways me thinks posting a picture with a girl does not, i repeat does not make you a dj
he he he you all think im a newbies.
and what makes you think these guys are better djs than every other person that posts here? anyone can be a guru online these guys like pook just wrote motivational posts thats all.
brucevangeorge
Banned
All in favor of this being stickied Say Ah
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Know what's sad?
DR BEARD IS RIGHT!
There's been too much whining on the form, too much conflict(even in this thread!) and not enough support!
The best thing that could be done here is to make a FIELD REPORT FORUM! That would centralize information that men have used in the field. This information could be easily found, read and condensed into a form worthy of the tips section by readers, or by the poster of the field report himself.
We are here to share information. Not to pretend, not to attack others, not to whine. We are here to learn.
MetalFortress
Master Don Juan
SELF-MASTERY
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That is ALL one really needs...... I've been a lil bitkh over the last few months. My game has grown very stale. Im so out of practice. I'm going to get all manic and go on a sarging bender. I need the vigor that I had when I first got here....
make the ho say no
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
"THEY KNOW WHAT WATCH YOU ARE WEARING!!!! LOLZ OMG ROFLZORZ"..
i hate people who talk like that and think they got it all
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=85372
no offense to the poster but that post was as lame as it can get..