"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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walking fast, higher status?

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This video link to science studies about wallking faster is perceived as higher status.
But less masculine?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Usually means you have a purpose and have things to do.

People that have nothing to do have no reason to walk fast.
 

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Usually means you have a purpose and have things to do.

People that have nothing to do have no reason to walk fast.
Sometimes walking slow with confidence is the way to go especially at parties and The Mall.


For places like the mall and parties, ya wanna build up Social Momentum by just talking to the workers there or by joking around with your friends. That way you’ve got the social muscles and vibes working. I’d even do a few ‘ Catch and Release’ rituals when you’re out and about, People do it all the time in fishing to acknowledge The Universal abundance of God and his world, why not cold approach? Do it your first few sets, have fun, do whatever you want and ‘release’…it will give you a confident and not needy vibe.

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I've heard this "walk fast = high status" theory. But I've also heard that the confident man uses slow, deliberate movements.
Sure, I suppose walking fast gives the impression you're busy, or in a rush. But honestly, using this as a strategy sounds like a bunch of BS to me.
 

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When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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If you walk to fast you'll look like you are holding in diarrhea.
Dude, actually this.
I know a business man, well respected, but He is very nervous and have this "keep it busy" attitude. Fast movements and walk like he's holding in diarrhea
confident man uses slow, deliberate movements.
I've never saw a Lion walking fast.. Did you?
Animal behaviour it's a suggestion
 

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I've heard this "walk fast = high status" theory. But I've also heard that the confident man uses slow, deliberate movements.
Sure, I suppose walking fast gives the impression you're busy, or in a rush. But honestly, using this as a strategy sounds like a bunch of BS to me.
All this surface level pop psychology stuff about body language and other non verbal communication is largely nonsense from so called "experts" who just make shvt up. Something like confidence isn't so tangible to be tied to any one thing like where you put your arms or how fast you walk. If you're, confident your behavior will automatically reflect that, there's nothing you need to do.

The idea of "hacking" confidence is straight retarded. At best you can only fool a bunch of people that don't matter for a short period of time.
 
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It doesn't matter if you walk fast or slow, you want to walk smoothly and with style.

Listen to the first 30 seconds of this song. How it makes you feel is how you want to walk.

 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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It might make women more nervous if you walk behind them at that pace :lol:

In all seriousness though, I really wouldn't worry about that...it's unlikely to factor that into anyone's perception of higher status. In fact, hyper fixating on how you walk or the speed will possibly make you more nervous than anything.

As a woman, I will say that confidence does wonders! Focus on having a good posture, straighten your shoulders out, and maintain eye contact! I notice some guys tend to fidget a lot when they're nervous, like clenching their jaw or twisting their hands or rubbing their lips (it's not specific to gender, though). Stuff like that can be kind of off-putting, so if I were you I'd focus on maintaining a confident frame, with your movements being controlled and deliberate. Women do notice body language and we find it very attractive if you're projecting relaxed and assured vibes!
 

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It might make women more nervous if you walk behind them at that pace :lol:
What if they're walking fast behind you and yelling loudly about God, Jesus and Hellfire?
 

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All this surface level pop psychology stuff about body language and other non verbal communication is largely nonsense from so called "experts" who just make shvt up. Something like confidence isn't so tangible to be tied to any one thing like where you put your arms or how fast you walk.
Lol, that reminds me of a PUA article I read that said you should face your target with your palms out and facing the woman, like a religious figure. Because it shows that you were a giving person. Can you imagine someone actually doing this?
 

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take a modeling class. will teach you how to stand/posture and other things about how to self present.

confidence will lead to a good walking style. a good walking style will not lead to confidence; usually.

the question becomes how to be confident, same as with many other topics. the root is confidence. confidence only comes from success, success comes from effort to do something well.
 

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What if they're walking fast behind you and yelling loudly about God, Jesus and Hellfire?
Lol, actually happens sometimes at our college campus. Someone was asking my friends and I to join a cult of some sort-their founder Joo Cheol-Kim was considered the 'second coming of Christ' and they were planning on infiltrating the local church. Absolutely nuts!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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After I've attended some boxe classes, I've noticed to have more body "confidence".
That was completely natural and I was having more open body and masculine walk
 
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