"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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walking fast, higher status?

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This video link to science studies about wallking faster is perceived as higher status.
But less masculine?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Usually means you have a purpose and have things to do.

People that have nothing to do have no reason to walk fast.
 

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Usually means you have a purpose and have things to do.

People that have nothing to do have no reason to walk fast.
Sometimes walking slow with confidence is the way to go especially at parties and The Mall.


For places like the mall and parties, ya wanna build up Social Momentum by just talking to the workers there or by joking around with your friends. That way you’ve got the social muscles and vibes working. I’d even do a few ‘ Catch and Release’ rituals when you’re out and about, People do it all the time in fishing to acknowledge The Universal abundance of God and his world, why not cold approach? Do it your first few sets, have fun, do whatever you want and ‘release’…it will give you a confident and not needy vibe.

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I've heard this "walk fast = high status" theory. But I've also heard that the confident man uses slow, deliberate movements.
Sure, I suppose walking fast gives the impression you're busy, or in a rush. But honestly, using this as a strategy sounds like a bunch of BS to me.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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If you walk to fast you'll look like you are holding in diarrhea.
Dude, actually this.
I know a business man, well respected, but He is very nervous and have this "keep it busy" attitude. Fast movements and walk like he's holding in diarrhea
confident man uses slow, deliberate movements.
I've never saw a Lion walking fast.. Did you?
Animal behaviour it's a suggestion
 

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I've heard this "walk fast = high status" theory. But I've also heard that the confident man uses slow, deliberate movements.
Sure, I suppose walking fast gives the impression you're busy, or in a rush. But honestly, using this as a strategy sounds like a bunch of BS to me.
All this surface level pop psychology stuff about body language and other non verbal communication is largely nonsense from so called "experts" who just make shvt up. Something like confidence isn't so tangible to be tied to any one thing like where you put your arms or how fast you walk. If you're, confident your behavior will automatically reflect that, there's nothing you need to do.

The idea of "hacking" confidence is straight retarded. At best you can only fool a bunch of people that don't matter for a short period of time.
 
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It doesn't matter if you walk fast or slow, you want to walk smoothly and with style.

Listen to the first 30 seconds of this song. How it makes you feel is how you want to walk.

 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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It might make women more nervous if you walk behind them at that pace :lol:

In all seriousness though, I really wouldn't worry about that...it's unlikely to factor that into anyone's perception of higher status. In fact, hyper fixating on how you walk or the speed will possibly make you more nervous than anything.

As a woman, I will say that confidence does wonders! Focus on having a good posture, straighten your shoulders out, and maintain eye contact! I notice some guys tend to fidget a lot when they're nervous, like clenching their jaw or twisting their hands or rubbing their lips (it's not specific to gender, though). Stuff like that can be kind of off-putting, so if I were you I'd focus on maintaining a confident frame, with your movements being controlled and deliberate. Women do notice body language and we find it very attractive if you're projecting relaxed and assured vibes!
 

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It might make women more nervous if you walk behind them at that pace :lol:
What if they're walking fast behind you and yelling loudly about God, Jesus and Hellfire?
 

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All this surface level pop psychology stuff about body language and other non verbal communication is largely nonsense from so called "experts" who just make shvt up. Something like confidence isn't so tangible to be tied to any one thing like where you put your arms or how fast you walk.
Lol, that reminds me of a PUA article I read that said you should face your target with your palms out and facing the woman, like a religious figure. Because it shows that you were a giving person. Can you imagine someone actually doing this?
 

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take a modeling class. will teach you how to stand/posture and other things about how to self present.

confidence will lead to a good walking style. a good walking style will not lead to confidence; usually.

the question becomes how to be confident, same as with many other topics. the root is confidence. confidence only comes from success, success comes from effort to do something well.
 

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What if they're walking fast behind you and yelling loudly about God, Jesus and Hellfire?
Lol, actually happens sometimes at our college campus. Someone was asking my friends and I to join a cult of some sort-their founder Joo Cheol-Kim was considered the 'second coming of Christ' and they were planning on infiltrating the local church. Absolutely nuts!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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After I've attended some boxe classes, I've noticed to have more body "confidence".
That was completely natural and I was having more open body and masculine walk
 
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