"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Walden's 30.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Walden
Master Don Juan
Hehe not quite yet big guy (Got another one today at the gym).
Walden
Master Don Juan
Okay so these weren't rejections , they wer e both successful closes . One on a hot blonde triathlete (to come to my comedy gig tomorrow night) and one on a cute (but interesting) biologist (to come to the same gig )
I got about five minutes after pur convo and realised I'd double booked myself (BAH!).
The biologist was just sitting in the common room talking to some guys I doidn't know so I went up and introduced myself to all of them , joked oin them all a bit and then closed the girl . Money!
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Congratulations! One question, since you are on a suceessful run, are you going to keep your emphasis on rejections?
Just curious...
Walden
Master Don Juan
Got my 8th at a party tomight. Actually aiming for rejection is starting to look like a stupider and stupider idea. For the record she was a smokin hot chick who was there with some chick ****blocking for her
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Walden
Master Don Juan
As you can see , making very slow progress and choking like a btich!
Walden
Master Don Juan
Work sent me to do some sht in another town and I did some good CAs there. Have been practicing with one particular opener and just knowing that I have one prepared helps a lot. Did 3 CAs there.
Then last night my buddies and I went clubbing and I rocked about 6 CAs. It's easier to work high numbers in a club because you can just do approach after approach and it doesn't matter so much the result.
Am starting to get over my fear of rejection again.
Infinity
Don Juan
What is the opener you are working with?
Walden
Master Don Juan
Which means I have tob get 14 in 10 days.
My standard pickup line is to go up apologise for interrupting and ask if she used to play volleyball for <NextTown> in the national league.
Chicks like the implied compliment, and respond well even if it's with a "no".
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I'm getting over that fear but it's still a factor in my game .
Walden
Master Don Juan
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Walden
Master Don Juan
Walden
Master Don Juan
Like I say my new Jedi mind trick kicks ass!
Walden
Master Don Juan
What I do is I imagine some ridiculous cartoonish thing about the girl I'm looking at. For example as I approach I imagine her getting hit in the face with an imaginary custard pei , and then picture her with custard dripping off her face, or I imagne she has brightly coloured tree frogs nesting in her hair.
Yes I know it's silly, but for some reason this screws with my brian's conditioning and so i don't tell myself to be scared.
Wierd huh?
Holy fucking shit, thats the craziest mindtrick I've ever heard. Next time you see a girl, picture her lusting for you with a tempting bit of whipcream on the corner of her lips, then see if you can still approach.
Anyway, since you're doing so well, I figure you should try these two scripts from Mystery, they are so patently fucking retarded that I want someone else to to Field-Test them for me, Walden, you've always volunteered yourself for DJing experiments. Lets get to it. Approach 50 women in the next 2 weeks with the following line, courtesy of Erik von Markovik (Mystery):
May I call you Sally? You can call me Mr. Poopee Pants.
Walden
Master Don Juan
No even I'm not stupid to try out that line Playa.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.