“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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I'm planning on going to Spain to teach English for a couple months. Is anyone familiar with this country? Any recommendations on what part of the country I should live? I'm not looking for the best city to DJ chicks, just where I can get the greatest experience.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Ya hablas un poco de espanol?

Many foreigners prefer the South, although the northern parts are what I lovemost.
However, it depends on what you want and what you're bringing with you. If you already know Spanish and want to improve your skills there, I'd not go to Barcelona or Madrid, these cities are full of foreigners, you'd have trouble meeting a Spaniard.
Do you know how to find jobs there, do you have numbers etc? If I were you, and it's about the experience, I'd travel a lot.

Nice cities to see: Barcelona, Salamanca, Santiago de Compostela, Granada and San Sebastian (Donostia in Basque). If you're going to Santiago, you could also head down south to Portugal. Porto and Lisbon are well worth a visit. And the beaches of the Algarve are the best.
 

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I can vouch for Donostia. Bilbao is where I live, it's not too exciting but the people are friendly. It's quite diverse, but not a lot of people speak any sort of decent english. You'll meet a lot of latin americans.
 

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Berlex said:
I'm planning on going to Spain to teach English for a couple months. Is anyone familiar with this country? Any recommendations on what part of the country I should live? I'm not looking for the best city to DJ chicks, just where I can get the greatest experience.
Okay...how can we recommend cities to live if you have not told us which city you will be teaching at?
 

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Okay...how can we recommend cities to live if you have not told us which city you will be teaching at?
Probably he means that the city he'll be teaching at is flexible.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Gubby said:
Probably he means that the city he'll be teaching at is flexible.
Yes, I get to choose among these regions:
Asturias
Ceuta y Melilla
Extremadura
La Rioja
Navarra
País Vasco
Aragón
Cantabria
Castilla la Mancha
Cataluña
Galicia
Islas Canarias
Andalucía
Castilla León
Islas Baleares
Madrid
Murcia
Valencia

I'd like to go somewhere English isn't widely spoken so I'd be forced to speak Spanish. I did study Spanish in college, I speak at about an intermediate level.
 

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Berlex said:
Yes, I get to choose among these regions:
Asturias
Ceuta y Melilla
Extremadura
La Rioja
Navarra
País Vasco
Aragón
Cantabria
Castilla la Mancha
Cataluña
Galicia
Islas Canarias
Andalucía
Castilla León
Islas Baleares
Madrid
Murcia
Valencia

I'd like to go somewhere English isn't widely spoken so I'd be forced to speak Spanish. I did study Spanish in college, I speak at about an intermediate level.
By the look of it I'd say that those are ALL of the regions.

Bilbao is pretty good for not speaking english ;D

If you have any other help you might need, contact me, ok?
 

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Berlex said:
Yes, I get to choose among these regions:
Asturias
Ceuta y Melilla
Extremadura
La Rioja
Navarra
País Vasco
Aragón
Cantabria
Castilla la Mancha
Cataluña
Galicia
Islas Canarias
Andalucía
Castilla León
Islas Baleares
Madrid
Murcia
Valencia

I'd like to go somewhere English isn't widely spoken so I'd be forced to speak Spanish. I did study Spanish in college, I speak at about an intermediate level.
Let me tell you something...unlike popular believe...Spanish is not spoken everywhere in Spain. If you want to learn Spanish...then you have to focus on the areas of Spain that speaks Spanish. In addition to Spanish...there are places in which main language are Euskera, Gallego, Catalan, Valenciano, and a few others.
 

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By the look of it I'd say that those are ALL of the regions.

Bilbao is pretty good for not speaking english ;D

If you have any other help you might need, contact me, ok?
Remember...he wants to practice SPANISH (Castellano).

I personally liked Madrid. Outstanding subway system...the best (second only to the one in Hong Kong). And trust me, we have a great one in Washington D.C., but nothing like Madrid's.
 

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Let me tell you something...unlike popular believe...Spanish is not spoken everywhere in Spain. If you want to learn Spanish...then you have to focus on the areas of Spain that speaks Spanish. In addition to Spanish...there are places in which main language are Euskera, Gallego, Catalan, Valenciano, and a few others.
I forgot about that. So I guess I should live within the red zones: http://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/Image:Spain_languages.PNG
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Latinoman said:
Let me tell you something...unlike popular believe...Spanish is not spoken everywhere in Spain. If you want to learn Spanish...then you have to focus on the areas of Spain that speaks Spanish. In addition to Spanish...there are places in which main language are Euskera, Gallego, Catalan, Valenciano, and a few others.
Yes, but as far as I know you won't have any problem finding people who speak Spanish.

In Euskadi here, practically EVERYONE speaks spanish and maybe 1/3 speak proper Euskera. (I don't speak Euskera and I never have any problems. Sometimes I need to know what's man and woman in basque so I can read the signs on the toilets. But if I end up pissing in the ladies' toilets, I tell them its their own ****ing fault for not putting the signs in Spanish).

I'm guessing that in the other places it's similar. Even if they speak their own language, it only makes sense to know Spanish.
 

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Wouldn't he want to speak Spanish with the places that speak Spanish as a FIRST language? That way he practice the language with people that speak it 24-7. Not some part-time speaker. Also, that way he can read the newspaper is Spanish.
 

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Wouldn't he want to speak Spanish with the places that speak Spanish as a FIRST language? That way he practice the language with people that speak it 24-7. Not some part-time speaker. Also, that way he can read the newspaper is Spanish.
In Euskadi, despite their nationalist gesticulations, they DO speak spanish as a first language. A few I've known not, but in the big cities everyone's from somewhere else anyway so it's utterly impractical to force basque on everyone, not that they don't try. Yes, and you can read the newspaper in Spanish here - in basque as well, but spanish a little easier if anything.
 

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I have been living in Galicia for a little more than a year, you will have no problems speaking Spanish. Signs and other things are sometimes in Galician, but it is so similar to Spanish that you shouldn't have any trouble (but I speak Portuguese as well, so maybe you'll find it to be different).

Salamanca comes to mind when you want to speak the "best" Spanish. The city can be a bit dull, though. At least after a couple of months. You could start there, bring your Spanish to a good level and then go around travelling. :up:
 

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+1 vote for Galicia.

Not a lick of English in those parts and the people are very warm and friendly.

The only downside for Galicia are the winters... you've never seen so much rain in your life! But it's a small price to pay for lush green hillsides and the best seafood you will ever eat in your life.

The cost of living is also really cheap. Rent is typically between 300-600 euro/month for your own crib.

La Coruña is one of my favorite cities (if you could even call it that). I really love that place and plan on moving there/buying a house in the not-so-distant future.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I still go for Madrid. I was surprised as how many people from all over the World (China, Germany, Brazil, India, England, etc.) lived there and ALL of them spoke PERFECT Spanish.
 

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Fingers: yeah! It's good to see another soul appreciate the beauty of Galicia! :up:
 

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I still go for Madrid. I was surprised as how many people from all over the World (China, Germany, Brazil, India, England, etc.) lived there and ALL of them spoke PERFECT Spanish.
On the flip side, it's very easy to speak english there. Talk to any random stranger and you'll get at least something.
 

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hmm decisions decisions...I have to submit my application in 48 hours.
 

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are there any native Spanish speaks that can look over my statement of purpose for grammatical errors? it's a page and a half double spaced. if I can get it looked over by tonight that'd be great!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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