I'm planning on going to Spain to teach English for a couple months. Is anyone familiar with this country? Any recommendations on what part of the country I should live? I'm not looking for the best city to DJ chicks, just where I can get the greatest experience.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Voy a Espana!
- Thread starter Berlex
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Ya hablas un poco de espanol?
Many foreigners prefer the South, although the northern parts are what I lovemost.
However, it depends on what you want and what you're bringing with you. If you already know Spanish and want to improve your skills there, I'd not go to Barcelona or Madrid, these cities are full of foreigners, you'd have trouble meeting a Spaniard.
Do you know how to find jobs there, do you have numbers etc? If I were you, and it's about the experience, I'd travel a lot.
Nice cities to see: Barcelona, Salamanca, Santiago de Compostela, Granada and San Sebastian (Donostia in Basque). If you're going to Santiago, you could also head down south to Portugal. Porto and Lisbon are well worth a visit. And the beaches of the Algarve are the best.
Many foreigners prefer the South, although the northern parts are what I lovemost.
However, it depends on what you want and what you're bringing with you. If you already know Spanish and want to improve your skills there, I'd not go to Barcelona or Madrid, these cities are full of foreigners, you'd have trouble meeting a Spaniard.
Do you know how to find jobs there, do you have numbers etc? If I were you, and it's about the experience, I'd travel a lot.
Nice cities to see: Barcelona, Salamanca, Santiago de Compostela, Granada and San Sebastian (Donostia in Basque). If you're going to Santiago, you could also head down south to Portugal. Porto and Lisbon are well worth a visit. And the beaches of the Algarve are the best.
I can vouch for Donostia. Bilbao is where I live, it's not too exciting but the people are friendly. It's quite diverse, but not a lot of people speak any sort of decent english. You'll meet a lot of latin americans.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Yes, I get to choose among these regions:Gubby said:
Asturias
Ceuta y Melilla
Extremadura
La Rioja
Navarra
País Vasco
Aragón
Cantabria
Castilla la Mancha
Cataluña
Galicia
Islas Canarias
Andalucía
Castilla León
Islas Baleares
Madrid
Murcia
Valencia
I'd like to go somewhere English isn't widely spoken so I'd be forced to speak Spanish. I did study Spanish in college, I speak at about an intermediate level.
Let me tell you something...unlike popular believe...Spanish is not spoken everywhere in Spain. If you want to learn Spanish...then you have to focus on the areas of Spain that speaks Spanish. In addition to Spanish...there are places in which main language are Euskera, Gallego, Catalan, Valenciano, and a few others.Berlex said:
Remember...he wants to practice SPANISH (Castellano).Gubby said:
I personally liked Madrid. Outstanding subway system...the best (second only to the one in Hong Kong). And trust me, we have a great one in Washington D.C., but nothing like Madrid's.
I forgot about that. So I guess I should live within the red zones: http://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/Image:Spain_languages.PNGLatinoman said:
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Yes, but as far as I know you won't have any problem finding people who speak Spanish.Latinoman said:
In Euskadi here, practically EVERYONE speaks spanish and maybe 1/3 speak proper Euskera. (I don't speak Euskera and I never have any problems. Sometimes I need to know what's man and woman in basque so I can read the signs on the toilets. But if I end up pissing in the ladies' toilets, I tell them its their own ****ing fault for not putting the signs in Spanish).
I'm guessing that in the other places it's similar. Even if they speak their own language, it only makes sense to know Spanish.
Wouldn't he want to speak Spanish with the places that speak Spanish as a FIRST language? That way he practice the language with people that speak it 24-7. Not some part-time speaker. Also, that way he can read the newspaper is Spanish.
In Euskadi, despite their nationalist gesticulations, they DO speak spanish as a first language. A few I've known not, but in the big cities everyone's from somewhere else anyway so it's utterly impractical to force basque on everyone, not that they don't try. Yes, and you can read the newspaper in Spanish here - in basque as well, but spanish a little easier if anything.Latinoman said:
I have been living in Galicia for a little more than a year, you will have no problems speaking Spanish. Signs and other things are sometimes in Galician, but it is so similar to Spanish that you shouldn't have any trouble (but I speak Portuguese as well, so maybe you'll find it to be different).
Salamanca comes to mind when you want to speak the "best" Spanish. The city can be a bit dull, though. At least after a couple of months. You could start there, bring your Spanish to a good level and then go around travelling.
Salamanca comes to mind when you want to speak the "best" Spanish. The city can be a bit dull, though. At least after a couple of months. You could start there, bring your Spanish to a good level and then go around travelling.
Señor Fingers
Master Don Juan
+1 vote for Galicia.
Not a lick of English in those parts and the people are very warm and friendly.
The only downside for Galicia are the winters... you've never seen so much rain in your life! But it's a small price to pay for lush green hillsides and the best seafood you will ever eat in your life.
The cost of living is also really cheap. Rent is typically between 300-600 euro/month for your own crib.
La Coruña is one of my favorite cities (if you could even call it that). I really love that place and plan on moving there/buying a house in the not-so-distant future.
Not a lick of English in those parts and the people are very warm and friendly.
The only downside for Galicia are the winters... you've never seen so much rain in your life! But it's a small price to pay for lush green hillsides and the best seafood you will ever eat in your life.
The cost of living is also really cheap. Rent is typically between 300-600 euro/month for your own crib.
La Coruña is one of my favorite cities (if you could even call it that). I really love that place and plan on moving there/buying a house in the not-so-distant future.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.