Canadianpimpology
Senior Don Juan
Bad case of PMS guys...let her rot in the AFC world.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
*Sips coffee* Diddya get the memo? Greeeat. I'll just send you over another copy. Yeeah. *sips coffee*Originally posted by The Matrix: Reloaded
I don't know who told you that women were God's gift to men... but I didn't get that memo... sorry.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Well said. Don't let this ***** tell you otherwise, ANYONE.fragmentor said:donjuanita I KNOW how to get a girl. Taking your sort of advice in the past is what led me into becoming an AFC. Now I know better. The 'advice' your giving out isn't a help, it's a hindrance to every guy in here.
Umm.... NO! u mean like female president!? AHAHAHAHA :crackup:DonJuanita2 said:good tips you guys. hard as$ dudes like these Don Juan's tend to forget that there is more to the opposite sex than Fvcking.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
dont be rediculous. this thread probably has way more to offer than a whiney dreamx/viper thread.Zerotwoonenine said:All DJs in here, i think we have a problem here. I really think women should not be allowed on to our site(except lesbos) cause we are trying to improve our selves, i dont know the the fvck are they doing in our guys forum but i want to tell them to get out!!!
Calm down. Yelling out words like ***** **** **** **** monkey-balls isn't going to get your point across, especially if you are using them to insult people that have been on this "****ing forum" longer then you. And yes I do need a "****ing forum" to learn how to pick up women. I wasn't born with this knowledge. And no, all a girl wants isn't love. I learned that the hard way, but if I had started using this "****ing forum" sooner I wouldn't have had to go through that.donjuanita said:**** YOU, YOU ****ING BASTARD! Obviously, if you need a ****ing forum to find out how to get a girl, you have issues!!!!!!!! What "progress" are we hindering you from? The progress of getting no girls ever in your entire lifetime? You can choose to take this advice or not to. You can choose to remain girl-less ass-wiping bastards or finally get a life and leave this forum for good. So **** you for not appreciating our help.
donjuanita said:Girls don't want to be the ones asking you peoples out. Most girls are old-fashioned, traditional biznatches who will always wait around for the guys to do the work. So DO IT!!!
Try, TRY, TRRRYYYY to look at the girl's personality rather than her ass. For girls, it's not always about the hot guy. Girls will choose an okay-looking guy with an awesome personality over a hot guy with no substance. Personality always supplements in what the person lacks in looks.
Good luck,
the donjuanitas.
I second this recommendation. No More Mr. Nice Guy changed my life completely, helped me gain my self-respect, and turned me into a man. I ain't a dj yet, but thats why I come to this site.Rambo-Commando said:"yes donjuanitas, what you say is sooo true" thats what I would have said back in the days when I was an AFC Nice Guy, when I was confused to why oh why do I get dumped, even when I treat these girls so well and like them for their personality and not their looks.
yea, well I know why now, cuz this advice allways came from desperate girls who could'nt handle a Man, and who needed a chump to ride, a chump that would kiss their asses and never leave them.
I could bet you anything that donjuanitas has been dumped, and has'nt gotten C*ck in ages.
honestly guys, I really recomend the book: "no more Mr Nice Guy" by Glover, its a very effective book that explains exactly why people turn into nice guys and deeply analyses everything (for those who might be curious to know why)
and gives u solutions how to fix it. and once you read it, you would clearly underestand WHY NOBODY LIKES NICE GUYS. why what donjuanitas says is BS, DONT STOP being a DJ !
Commando
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.