"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Visit her at work?

dannyjames24

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Hey guys,

This is my first posting here....hopefully this isnt too dumb of a question.

I was at a 4th of July party on Sunday where I met a girl. We hit it off very well and pretty much hung out together the whole night chatting. There was definate chemistry between us, but unfortunately I didn't get the chance to close with the number or kiss or anything.

I ran upstairs for a moment and on my way back down a fight broke out. In the midst of all the chaos I decided it would be best just to get out of there before any cops arrived.

My question is....I know where this girl works. She's a hairdresser and told me the salon. So, I was thinking of calling up the salon and scheduling a haircut with her. Would that be weird? Or I was thinking I could stop by her house (the party was at her place)...but I dunno about that. I wouldnt appreciate random people stopping by my house.

Any ideas or suggestions for this one? Keep in mind there was a strong chemistry between us....just a missed opportunity.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Hey Danny, congrats on your first post...

It sounds like you've got a good opportunity here. I wouldn't schedule a haircut from this girl, cause you're not interested in a haircut at all. Just give the salon a call and ask to speak with the girl. Tell her you enjoyed the party and ask her out.

If she wants to meet you again, you can say 'Hey, I don't like to annoy you at work, what's your home number?'.
 

San

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Don't visit her @ work (yet).
maybe it's nice to surprise her when you hang out with her for some time already, but that's not the case now.

Like Beethoven said, call her at work and ask her to have lunch with her or meet up for a drink or something.

if there was/is chemistry between the 2 of you chanches are high she says yes!

good luck
 

dannyjames24

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Well, I'm glad I posted. Had I not, I probably would've just ended up going in there.

So I will call there tomorrow and see if I can get a hold of her. Wish me luck! Any other words of advice?
 

San

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Things will turn out just fine ;-)

there was chemistry between the 2 of you and woman love suprises and probably she will very much be suprised if you make a call to the barbershop :)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Mercenary

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You visit a girl at her workplace as a reward, after she's earned it.
 

squirrels

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Don't schedule a haircut with her, that's corny.

If you happen to be in the neighborhood of her job for whatever reason, swing by and just be legit with it.

"Hey, how're you doing? I lost track of you xxxx night after the ruckus and I was passing through so I thought I'd drop by, but it looks like you're pretty busy so why don't you give me your number and I'll call you sometime?"
 
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