You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
How is a nice big photo op day where you invite family and friends and make a big social splash followed by an all expense paid vacation a hassle? It is all fun. Just mean the vows.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
He would still lose whether 3 dates or 2.5 years. He still would not have her unless he married and found out.
He should have never "had" her. Had he allowed 3-4 meetups tops and bailed without physical affection hed been straight.
Well now he definitely can't. At least she didn't sleep with a Black guy or he'd really be fuming.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Female logic ftw
my opinion: Obviously, she just had this guy as a close orbiter.
Hopefully, it brings his ass to the red pill lulz