video: The real reason dating is broken

[MatureDJ]

 

[BillyPilgrim]

The real reason dating is broken is because the majority (or at least a significant minority) of women in the SMP got phucked out, the Chad's didn't commit, and now they want their revenge on Mr. Beta. And if the toxic, vengeful women aren't making an effort, then less societal pressure on Stacy to make an effort.

Also, as a lesser reason, expenses. Between the Match Group, gas and the economy, the cost of dating for men isn't as trivial as before.

 

[BaronOfHair]

0:37 One possible explanation that rarely gets mentioned: It's become fashionable to label every interaction with the opposite sex that doesn't go EXACTLY the way we'd prefer "a disaster", "lousy", "catastrophic", etc etc... Same way we now consider hearing words we don't entirely agree with "traumatizing"

Thinking this histrionic obliterates one's prospects for creating inner serenity

 

[obelisk]

The real reason dating is broken is because the majority (or at least a significant minority) of women in the SMP got phucked out, the Chad's didn't commit, and now they want their revenge on Mr. Beta. And if the toxic, vengeful women aren't making an effort, then less societal pressure on Stacy to make an effort.

Also, as a lesser reason, expenses. Between the Match Group, gas and the economy, the cost of dating for men isn't as trivial as before.

Truth bombs!

 

[Solomon]

The real reason dating is broken is because the majority (or at least a significant minority) of women in the SMP got phucked out, the Chad's didn't commit, and now they want their revenge on Mr. Beta. And if the toxic, vengeful women aren't making an effort, then less societal pressure on Stacy to make an effort.

Also, as a lesser reason, expenses. Between the Match Group, gas and the economy, the cost of dating for men isn't as trivial as before.

I don't fully disagree, but men aren't doing themselves any favors by constantly whining online instead of adapting. Fifteen years ago it was understood: if you want the hottest women, you need to be a man of value. Value is subjective, but most guys agree that game, a solid physique, good income, and self-respect all raise it.

I'm seeing it clearly in my friend groups the guys who keep leveling up have way better dating options. The ones who do nothing? Not so much. I cut off a 35-year-old buddy who smokes weed all day, works part-time retail, lives with his parents, and constantly whined on Facebook about women. Sorry, but most of us wouldn't lose sleep over an average-looking woman doing the exact same thing.

Self-awareness and personal responsibility are key on both sides and they're becoming a lost art.

 

[The Duke]

I say it all the time, social skills are necessary and so many people under the age of 35 are failing these days. I see it with the staff when I order food at restaurants, I see it at retail stores. So many are antisocial and have zero idea of how to handle a problem. Its more apparent in larger cities than it is small towns.

People have succumbed to convenience and are wallowing in their own depressing solitude. Instead of going to the neighborhood bar & grill and striking up a conversation with a stranger they use UberEats and stay home binging another show on Netflix as their social skills fade away.

The worst examples seek advice from ChatGPT, have relationships with bots, and onlyfans wh0res.

And then they wonder why they can't connect with someone when they muster up the courage to finally go on a date. Yep, experiences in life really do suck when you are ill-equipped.

I'm not surprised at all that dating is more difficult than ever before for a certain segment of the population. For me, its gotten easier even though my looks have started to fade. But its only easier because I improved myself.

Look at yourself closely, what is it you need to improve to achieve better results?

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

The real reason dating is broken is because the majority (or at least a significant minority) of women in the SMP got phucked out, the Chad's didn't commit, and now they want their revenge on Mr. Beta.

That's true for both teams. Men can't get laid so they blame all women. Women get ghosted and blame men. Both teams think their argument is valid and the other team's isn't.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

@OP how about you list the reasons why dating is broken, according to the video. I don't want to have to watch a 30 minute video just to find out some dudes take.

 

[nicksaiz65]

@OP how about you list the reasons why dating is broken, according to the video. I don't want to have to watch a 30 minute video just to find out some dudes take.

Paste the link in Google Gemini, ask it to summarize the video. Easily the best AI for video summarization rn

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Paste the link in Google Gemini, ask it to summarize the video. Easily the best AI for video summarization rn

I was trying to encourage OP to say a little bit about the video instead of just dropping a link and expecting everybody to watch a 30 minute video in order to engage with the post.

But your suggestion for an AI summary would be better than nothing to include with the vid, and only take OP an extra minute, if that.

 

[Prepostereax]

Yeah, I just skimmed this one
The vid zekko posted makes more sense, in a third the time:

The Dating Market Explained

I don't really like posting videos, but I thought this one was interesting. It talks about why men have it tough in the dating market (seems mainly because of their preferences for younger women). But wow, sounds like older women are the ones who really have it rough, they seem left out almost...

www.sosuave.net

Main takeaways from this vid are:

He's mostly, or purely, talking LTR's
LTR's are broken nowadays because women are earning more, but still contributing just as much to the household
(so maybe they should stop being hypergamous??)
Dude is married to the chick in the closing panel
(She seems pretty darned subservient compared to him)

I know plenty of women who wouldn't care less what earning capacity of some guy she just wants to fck, nor how house-trained he may be..
But those are absolutely imperative for a lifelong partner

 

[BaronOfHair]

I say it all the time, social skills are necessary and so many people under the age of 35 are failing these days. I see it with the staff when I order food at restaurants, I see it at retail stores. So many are antisocial and have zero idea of how to handle a problem. Its more apparent in larger cities than it is small towns.

People have succumbed to convenience and are wallowing in their own depressing solitude. Instead of going to the neighborhood bar & grill and striking up a conversation with a stranger they use UberEats and stay home binging another show on Netflix as their social skills fade away

Couple of weeks back I was chatting with a few fellas, and it was mentioned that at the beginning of The 20th Century, 10s of 1000s of fraternal organizations existed throughout The US/The so-called West more generally. Those organizations began vanishing more rapidly than eligible bachelors.whenever Rosie O'Donnell waddles into a room, a few years after WWII... Not coincidentally, this was when radio, television, and heating and A&C became all but ubiquitous in every home in the land

THAT retreat from reality and into fantasy worlds has done nothing but quadruple with each passing decade. By The 70s, broadcast TV was airing 24/7, and in The 80s, VCRs and cable arrived on the scene. Both were all but universal in the lives of most First-Worlders by '95, and a mere 3-4 years later residents in pretty much every major metropolitan area were essentially strong-armed by employers and school districts into securing at-home internet access

By '04, it was already possible to spend ALL of one's off-hours online, with the advent of streaming and social media In The 10s making the temptations to do so stronger still. What you describe, @The Duke , is almost certainly going to become an even MORE dire societal ill, now that much of our professional lives are also taking place primairly via Zoom and the like.


I don't believe it hyperbolic to predict that, in the next few years, most "white collar" employees will be only be required to leave home and show up at the office 2-3 times per year. Lawyers and doctors are now beginning to meet with clients via Zoom with startling frequency. Engineers can already have minimum wage toadies take pictures of something that's f-c-ed up on-site, diagnosis the problem, then provide said toadies with instructions on how to repair it, all without ever leaving their own living room

 

[MatureDJ]

@OP how about you list the reasons why dating is broken, according to the video. I don't want to have to watch a 30 minute video just to find out some dudes take.

It's broken for me because I'm short.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

It's broken for me because I'm short.

There's somebody for everybody...

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[BaronOfHair]

6:30 And I'm going to submit that NOTHING has changed, regarding the point he raises here:

In centuries past, Jane Austen(talented a writer as she was)died childless and unmarried, as did so many gals who mistook her work for The Gospel Truth... They were seeking real-life equivalents to Mr. Darcy, and perpetually dismayed to find that men in RL pick their noses at least once a day, get the runs occasionally, and sometimes aren't as attentive as they perhaps could be

All that's different today? Lots of women cling to a fantasy wherein one of those fellas from The Summer I Turned Pretty swoops into their lives, then carries them off into the sunset, WITHOUT having to make themselves approachable. This isn't even an especially fresh observation. Lori Gottlieb was writing about this, far back as '08 https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/lori-gottlieb-marry-him/id280214911?i=1000091546097