"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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VIDEO: 10 Reasons NOT to Date Single Moms

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I put out a podcast/videocast twice a week, and so far this is my most popular video. Apparently, people can relate to not dating single moms; the few times I tried, it just wasn't worth it. Would love to hear your thoughts about the subject!

 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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totally agree. Biggest problem is your dating/sex life revolves around her kids. When she has them, when she doesnt, when they are asleep, when they are awake. Best to not even get involved. And typically they are emotionally unstable with ex issues
 
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totally agree. Biggest problem is your dating/sex life revolves around her kids. When she has them, when she doesnt, when they are asleep, when they are awake. Best to not even get involved. And typically they are emotionally unstable with ex issues
Huge waste of time.. Simply pinning down a date or even a hook up with a single mom is a fukin nightmare.

Not only that, these single moms always have a story about the ex being some evil douch bag.. In reality she is more than likely complicit in the break up of the relationship.
 

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If you like kids and have no problem with that, why not? Problem is that most of these women are actually looking for some guys that can help her raising the kid in one way or another, but it doesn't exclude the fact that you may find a responsible woman that won't try to make you her kid's daddy and will keep you away from this matter. These are the women who got their **** together. But, of course, you can't expect to become somehow a priority in her life, her kids will always come (or should always come) first.
 

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Single moms have always been the hardest lay for me for whatever reason. 9/10 of the times I’ve been rejected, ghosted, dumped after a month or 3, it’s always been by single moms. I got tired of beating my head against that wall and just came to the conclusion that I’m not for them and they aren’t for me. The biggest thing though is you’re expected to make her FIRST in your life but YOULL be 4th at best in hers.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'll put in my $.02 from a dad that has a few kids, which may provide a different perspective.

Dating single moms are only conducive if you also are a single dad, want a quick lay/fwb setup, or don't mind embarking on a LTR with the possibility of marriage and/or being part of her kid's lives.

Note that you will ALWAY play second fiddle to her kids in all ways: Time, attention, money allocation, affection, scheduling, etc.

If you don't fit into the above or you require the full blown attention from a female, then I would avoid single moms to save yourself headaches. My $.02
 

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I put out a podcast/videocast twice a week, and so far this is my most popular video. Apparently, people can relate to not dating single moms; the few times I tried, it just wasn't worth it. Would love to hear your thoughts about the subject!

Very good video
 
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