"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Very good article on BODYLANGUAGE!!!
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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Good article, thanks for sharing it.
I especially liked this:
"A smile is often used to gain approval or validation, ease uncomfortable moments, or show acceptance. Jimmy rarely used his smile in these ways. He didn’t smile when expected. He smiled on his terms. He reacted to people less than they reacted to him.
How Did James Use His Smile?
James Dean used to smile to give approval, not to get it. If you answered a question in a manner that pleased him, then he’d smile. If you said something that amused him, he’d smile. Jimmy smiled to reward you for doing something he liked. He did not smile to be rewarded. He made people pay for his coy, self-satisfied smirkish grin and he generally did not smile to appear friendly."
I especially liked this:
"A smile is often used to gain approval or validation, ease uncomfortable moments, or show acceptance. Jimmy rarely used his smile in these ways. He didn’t smile when expected. He smiled on his terms. He reacted to people less than they reacted to him.
How Did James Use His Smile?
James Dean used to smile to give approval, not to get it. If you answered a question in a manner that pleased him, then he’d smile. If you said something that amused him, he’d smile. Jimmy smiled to reward you for doing something he liked. He did not smile to be rewarded. He made people pay for his coy, self-satisfied smirkish grin and he generally did not smile to appear friendly."
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I didn't like the part about not smiling or trying to look to intense.
I am sure there is a time and place for these methods, but when it comes to initial attraction, looking "tough" or too intense is a big turn off to women. I know, because I was naturally an intense guy, and did not pay off for me.
Again, it's not that I don't see any merit in the concepts, I do. But I think you're far better off smiling more and making the error on the side of caution, than you are trying to use these more "advanced" techniques.
The rest of article was decent though.
I am sure there is a time and place for these methods, but when it comes to initial attraction, looking "tough" or too intense is a big turn off to women. I know, because I was naturally an intense guy, and did not pay off for me.
Again, it's not that I don't see any merit in the concepts, I do. But I think you're far better off smiling more and making the error on the side of caution, than you are trying to use these more "advanced" techniques.
The rest of article was decent though.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I liked the part about the smile. I don't agree with the bit about looking too intense though.MotownMack said:
If you have an easy/open expression and only smile when you are impressed it sends out a signal to the woman that she has to qualify herself.
I think the thing with smiling is that when talking to people, you will naturally agree with most things they're saying and most of what they're saying will be fluff talk. Smiling when there is no need makes you seem like you're trying too hard.
Nice, thanks ChrizZ, your always diggin up good stuff.
I think I smile too much. In fact girls have even said 'your always smiling'. I thought this was a good thing. I'm an open playfull guy, confident and I do somewhat do the first things on the list, but I just seem to always be smiling because I'm easily amused and self-amused. Not exactly 'badass'. But then again I might have to change that if I want to get laid...
I think I smile too much. In fact girls have even said 'your always smiling'. I thought this was a good thing. I'm an open playfull guy, confident and I do somewhat do the first things on the list, but I just seem to always be smiling because I'm easily amused and self-amused. Not exactly 'badass'. But then again I might have to change that if I want to get laid...
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^^^ I really don't think smiling too much is holding you back. You probably have problems elsewhere. That's kind of like being "too good looking". Yeah, it could occasionally intimidate someone or work against you, but far more often than not, it's a good "problem" to have.
Haha MowtownMack I never said it was keeping me back it just seems contradictory to the article. I'm not putting any problem of mine down to smiling. I really hate it when guys complain about being good looking.