"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Very good article on BODYLANGUAGE!!!
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Good article, thanks for sharing it.
I especially liked this:
"A smile is often used to gain approval or validation, ease uncomfortable moments, or show acceptance. Jimmy rarely used his smile in these ways. He didn’t smile when expected. He smiled on his terms. He reacted to people less than they reacted to him.
How Did James Use His Smile?
James Dean used to smile to give approval, not to get it. If you answered a question in a manner that pleased him, then he’d smile. If you said something that amused him, he’d smile. Jimmy smiled to reward you for doing something he liked. He did not smile to be rewarded. He made people pay for his coy, self-satisfied smirkish grin and he generally did not smile to appear friendly."
I especially liked this:
"A smile is often used to gain approval or validation, ease uncomfortable moments, or show acceptance. Jimmy rarely used his smile in these ways. He didn’t smile when expected. He smiled on his terms. He reacted to people less than they reacted to him.
How Did James Use His Smile?
James Dean used to smile to give approval, not to get it. If you answered a question in a manner that pleased him, then he’d smile. If you said something that amused him, he’d smile. Jimmy smiled to reward you for doing something he liked. He did not smile to be rewarded. He made people pay for his coy, self-satisfied smirkish grin and he generally did not smile to appear friendly."
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I didn't like the part about not smiling or trying to look to intense.
I am sure there is a time and place for these methods, but when it comes to initial attraction, looking "tough" or too intense is a big turn off to women. I know, because I was naturally an intense guy, and did not pay off for me.
Again, it's not that I don't see any merit in the concepts, I do. But I think you're far better off smiling more and making the error on the side of caution, than you are trying to use these more "advanced" techniques.
The rest of article was decent though.
I am sure there is a time and place for these methods, but when it comes to initial attraction, looking "tough" or too intense is a big turn off to women. I know, because I was naturally an intense guy, and did not pay off for me.
Again, it's not that I don't see any merit in the concepts, I do. But I think you're far better off smiling more and making the error on the side of caution, than you are trying to use these more "advanced" techniques.
The rest of article was decent though.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I liked the part about the smile. I don't agree with the bit about looking too intense though.MotownMack said:
If you have an easy/open expression and only smile when you are impressed it sends out a signal to the woman that she has to qualify herself.
I think the thing with smiling is that when talking to people, you will naturally agree with most things they're saying and most of what they're saying will be fluff talk. Smiling when there is no need makes you seem like you're trying too hard.
Nice, thanks ChrizZ, your always diggin up good stuff.
I think I smile too much. In fact girls have even said 'your always smiling'. I thought this was a good thing. I'm an open playfull guy, confident and I do somewhat do the first things on the list, but I just seem to always be smiling because I'm easily amused and self-amused. Not exactly 'badass'. But then again I might have to change that if I want to get laid...
I think I smile too much. In fact girls have even said 'your always smiling'. I thought this was a good thing. I'm an open playfull guy, confident and I do somewhat do the first things on the list, but I just seem to always be smiling because I'm easily amused and self-amused. Not exactly 'badass'. But then again I might have to change that if I want to get laid...
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^^^ I really don't think smiling too much is holding you back. You probably have problems elsewhere. That's kind of like being "too good looking". Yeah, it could occasionally intimidate someone or work against you, but far more often than not, it's a good "problem" to have.
Haha MowtownMack I never said it was keeping me back it just seems contradictory to the article. I'm not putting any problem of mine down to smiling. I really hate it when guys complain about being good looking.