"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Very good article on BODYLANGUAGE!!!
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Good article, thanks for sharing it.
I especially liked this:
"A smile is often used to gain approval or validation, ease uncomfortable moments, or show acceptance. Jimmy rarely used his smile in these ways. He didn’t smile when expected. He smiled on his terms. He reacted to people less than they reacted to him.
How Did James Use His Smile?
James Dean used to smile to give approval, not to get it. If you answered a question in a manner that pleased him, then he’d smile. If you said something that amused him, he’d smile. Jimmy smiled to reward you for doing something he liked. He did not smile to be rewarded. He made people pay for his coy, self-satisfied smirkish grin and he generally did not smile to appear friendly."
I especially liked this:
"A smile is often used to gain approval or validation, ease uncomfortable moments, or show acceptance. Jimmy rarely used his smile in these ways. He didn’t smile when expected. He smiled on his terms. He reacted to people less than they reacted to him.
How Did James Use His Smile?
James Dean used to smile to give approval, not to get it. If you answered a question in a manner that pleased him, then he’d smile. If you said something that amused him, he’d smile. Jimmy smiled to reward you for doing something he liked. He did not smile to be rewarded. He made people pay for his coy, self-satisfied smirkish grin and he generally did not smile to appear friendly."
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I didn't like the part about not smiling or trying to look to intense.
I am sure there is a time and place for these methods, but when it comes to initial attraction, looking "tough" or too intense is a big turn off to women. I know, because I was naturally an intense guy, and did not pay off for me.
Again, it's not that I don't see any merit in the concepts, I do. But I think you're far better off smiling more and making the error on the side of caution, than you are trying to use these more "advanced" techniques.
The rest of article was decent though.
I am sure there is a time and place for these methods, but when it comes to initial attraction, looking "tough" or too intense is a big turn off to women. I know, because I was naturally an intense guy, and did not pay off for me.
Again, it's not that I don't see any merit in the concepts, I do. But I think you're far better off smiling more and making the error on the side of caution, than you are trying to use these more "advanced" techniques.
The rest of article was decent though.
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
I liked the part about the smile. I don't agree with the bit about looking too intense though.MotownMack said:
If you have an easy/open expression and only smile when you are impressed it sends out a signal to the woman that she has to qualify herself.
I think the thing with smiling is that when talking to people, you will naturally agree with most things they're saying and most of what they're saying will be fluff talk. Smiling when there is no need makes you seem like you're trying too hard.
Nice, thanks ChrizZ, your always diggin up good stuff.
I think I smile too much. In fact girls have even said 'your always smiling'. I thought this was a good thing. I'm an open playfull guy, confident and I do somewhat do the first things on the list, but I just seem to always be smiling because I'm easily amused and self-amused. Not exactly 'badass'. But then again I might have to change that if I want to get laid...
I think I smile too much. In fact girls have even said 'your always smiling'. I thought this was a good thing. I'm an open playfull guy, confident and I do somewhat do the first things on the list, but I just seem to always be smiling because I'm easily amused and self-amused. Not exactly 'badass'. But then again I might have to change that if I want to get laid...
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^^^ I really don't think smiling too much is holding you back. You probably have problems elsewhere. That's kind of like being "too good looking". Yeah, it could occasionally intimidate someone or work against you, but far more often than not, it's a good "problem" to have.
Haha MowtownMack I never said it was keeping me back it just seems contradictory to the article. I'm not putting any problem of mine down to smiling. I really hate it when guys complain about being good looking.