"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Ok, so there's this girl, we went to the movies, cuddled the whole time, then went to her car and basically dry humped for a while but I had to leave so there was no further escalation.

So I just set something up with her again for tomorrow, but she then she texts me back saying "um yeah we can see a movie or whatever but just as friends sorry if I led you on". WTF?

That's something I totally wasn't expecting. Does anyone have any theory as to why this girl might be acting this way?

Note: We did the dry humping and stuff right before I went away for a month and I just got back now. Could that extended period of separation have done it?

Also, I texted her back saying, "Oh ok. Whatever." and I'm kind of regretting it. Was that an AFC move?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Only one way to find out, Take her out somewhere, Escalate. There is always a chance that she hooked up with a guy while you where away but if your gonna go through with this, You just need to learn to let it go cause you will never know..
 
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Ice882 said:
Note: We did the dry humping and stuff right before I went away for a month and I just got back now. Could that extended period of separation have done it?
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No, actually the dry humping did it.


Cheers!
 
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romangod said:
No, actually the dry humping did it.


Cheers!
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And why is that? Keep in mind we're in high school. First dates don't end with an F-close.
 
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Ice882 said:
And why is that? Keep in mind we're in high school. First dates don't end with an F-close.
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Actually, you didn't get my point. Maybe you moved too fast and she has a little self-respect and dignity. I don't know the girl's background and character but maybe the dry humping on the first date made her feel like a wh0re and she didn't like that feeling. Ergo, she didn't like you. Don't put the cart before the horse. Maybe she wanted to get to know you better before letting you get your rocks off.


Cheers!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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romangod said:
Actually, you didn't get my point. Maybe you moved too fast and she has a little self-respect and dignity. I don't know the girl's background and character but maybe the dry humping on the first date made her feel like a wh0re and she didn't like that feeling. Ergo, she didn't like you. Don't put the cart before the horse. Maybe she wanted to get to know you better before letting you get your rocks off.


Cheers!
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Oh, okay okay. I see what you're saying. However, we have known each other for a while--but yeah, maybe she felt bad about getting that close on a first date.

I'm taking her out again tomorrow... should I not try anything because of that?
 
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Note: We did the dry humping and stuff right before I went away for a month and I just got back now. Could that extended period of separation have done it
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Sure its a possibility.

Who knows where her interest levels were before you left, but now they are all gone. She probably met some guy while you were away for a month and he fvcked her.

NEXT!!!
 
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I'm taking her out again tomorrow... should I not try anything because of that?
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Is it a date or are you now just friends?


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If you're already taking her out then might as well give it another shot. Just don't pay for her, as you're supposed to be "friends" now.
 
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romangod said:
Is it a date or are you now just friends?


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Yeah--we're technically friends right now. But I think I'll have to judge for myself tomorrow--basically following Jitterbug's plan.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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And can I just say that girls are retarded? No logic. Fickle retards. Usually spoiled.

But whatever. I'm not gonna stop gaming.
 
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Ice882 said:
Ok, so there's this girl, we went to the movies, cuddled the whole time, then went to her car and basically dry humped for a while but I had to leave so there was no further escalation.

So I just set something up with her again for tomorrow, but she then she texts me back saying "um yeah we can see a movie or whatever but just as friends sorry if I led you on". WTF?

That's something I totally wasn't expecting. Does anyone have any theory as to why this girl might be acting this way?

Note: We did the dry humping and stuff right before I went away for a month and I just got back now. Could that extended period of separation have done it?

Also, I texted her back saying, "Oh ok. Whatever." and I'm kind of regretting it. Was that an AFC move?
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You went too far with her on the first date. You never should get to the point of "dry humping" with her until you're ready to sleep with her. She got buyer's remorse.
 
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