"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Ok, so there's this girl, we went to the movies, cuddled the whole time, then went to her car and basically dry humped for a while but I had to leave so there was no further escalation.

So I just set something up with her again for tomorrow, but she then she texts me back saying "um yeah we can see a movie or whatever but just as friends sorry if I led you on". WTF?

That's something I totally wasn't expecting. Does anyone have any theory as to why this girl might be acting this way?

Note: We did the dry humping and stuff right before I went away for a month and I just got back now. Could that extended period of separation have done it?

Also, I texted her back saying, "Oh ok. Whatever." and I'm kind of regretting it. Was that an AFC move?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Only one way to find out, Take her out somewhere, Escalate. There is always a chance that she hooked up with a guy while you where away but if your gonna go through with this, You just need to learn to let it go cause you will never know..
 
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Ice882 said:
Note: We did the dry humping and stuff right before I went away for a month and I just got back now. Could that extended period of separation have done it?
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No, actually the dry humping did it.


Cheers!
 
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romangod said:
No, actually the dry humping did it.


Cheers!
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And why is that? Keep in mind we're in high school. First dates don't end with an F-close.
 
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Ice882 said:
And why is that? Keep in mind we're in high school. First dates don't end with an F-close.
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Actually, you didn't get my point. Maybe you moved too fast and she has a little self-respect and dignity. I don't know the girl's background and character but maybe the dry humping on the first date made her feel like a wh0re and she didn't like that feeling. Ergo, she didn't like you. Don't put the cart before the horse. Maybe she wanted to get to know you better before letting you get your rocks off.


Cheers!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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romangod said:
Actually, you didn't get my point. Maybe you moved too fast and she has a little self-respect and dignity. I don't know the girl's background and character but maybe the dry humping on the first date made her feel like a wh0re and she didn't like that feeling. Ergo, she didn't like you. Don't put the cart before the horse. Maybe she wanted to get to know you better before letting you get your rocks off.


Cheers!
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Oh, okay okay. I see what you're saying. However, we have known each other for a while--but yeah, maybe she felt bad about getting that close on a first date.

I'm taking her out again tomorrow... should I not try anything because of that?
 
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Note: We did the dry humping and stuff right before I went away for a month and I just got back now. Could that extended period of separation have done it
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Sure its a possibility.

Who knows where her interest levels were before you left, but now they are all gone. She probably met some guy while you were away for a month and he fvcked her.

NEXT!!!
 
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I'm taking her out again tomorrow... should I not try anything because of that?
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Is it a date or are you now just friends?


Cheers!
 
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If you're already taking her out then might as well give it another shot. Just don't pay for her, as you're supposed to be "friends" now.
 
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romangod said:
Is it a date or are you now just friends?


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Yeah--we're technically friends right now. But I think I'll have to judge for myself tomorrow--basically following Jitterbug's plan.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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And can I just say that girls are retarded? No logic. Fickle retards. Usually spoiled.

But whatever. I'm not gonna stop gaming.
 
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Ice882 said:
Ok, so there's this girl, we went to the movies, cuddled the whole time, then went to her car and basically dry humped for a while but I had to leave so there was no further escalation.

So I just set something up with her again for tomorrow, but she then she texts me back saying "um yeah we can see a movie or whatever but just as friends sorry if I led you on". WTF?

That's something I totally wasn't expecting. Does anyone have any theory as to why this girl might be acting this way?

Note: We did the dry humping and stuff right before I went away for a month and I just got back now. Could that extended period of separation have done it?

Also, I texted her back saying, "Oh ok. Whatever." and I'm kind of regretting it. Was that an AFC move?
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You went too far with her on the first date. You never should get to the point of "dry humping" with her until you're ready to sleep with her. She got buyer's remorse.
 
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