You, my friend, are an intelligent man!JonJaper said:I'm subscribing to this thread...it's pure gold
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You, my friend, are an intelligent man!JonJaper said:I'm subscribing to this thread...it's pure gold
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
From the original column:Samantha Brick goes viral: Isn't she lovely? Annoyed people say 'no'
Samantha Brick has discovered that when you write about your own good looks, people will not react well.
The backlash from her Daily Mail column, "There Are Downsides to Looking This Pretty," has gone viral. And this week, the British woman spoke about the evidence of the vitriol on ABC's "Good Morning America" -- "the thousands of vile messages I've had on Twitter, the thousands of vile emails I've had to my personal account, the messages I've had on my own answerphone."
Sure, she is not hot. I am sure she was a cute 7 in her youth but she is not making a false statement.I work at mine [appearance] — I don’t drink or smoke, I work out, even when I don’t feel like it, and very rarely succumb to chocolate. Unfortunately women find nothing more annoying than someone else being the most attractive girl in a room.
Hey, football fans, it don't get any clearer than this!You have to understand, that when a woman gets mad and starts just pushing your buttons, okay? That is the female version of the Hail Mary, alright?
Now, I know you guys all watch fuckin' NFL. What does Tom Jackson say when they throw the fuckin' Hail Mary? What do you do? *knock it down!* That's what you do! And you knock it down by just being calm.
Now if she just says a bunch shit in fuckin' anger, okay? And you actually respond to the shit and insult her back, that's like taking an "Unnecessary Roughness" call, after you just stopped the other team Fourth and fuckin' Goal, to end the game.
Now, it's a penalty. They got a First Down. You gave them all... a whole fuckin' four set of downs to try to get in the fuckin' end zone. You fucked up! You had the game won cuz you lost your cool.
Don't ever lose your cool.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Thanks, my friend. You obviously know your stuff.Geee said:Excellent observations. This is a top notch thread!
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
OH HELL NOOOOOO!!!! WTF IS THIS SHIT!!?? It's her goddamn job as a Woman to birth a child as it is mine as a Man to be a provider to my family!! It's goddamn Nature for fuck's sake!"A push present (also known as a "push gift" or "baby bauble") is a present a new father gives a new mother when she gives birth to their child. In practice the present may be given before or after the birth, or even in the delivery room."
Thanks my friend. You obviously recognize quality stuff when you see it.Alle_Gory said:This thread is great. Subscribed. Can't wait for the next post.
I will have to make people watching a hobby now. I find it interesting but never pick things out as often as you.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Among the many things I've incorporated into my Life, The 48 Laws of Power are some of the best things I ran across in my journey in the voyage called Life.Law 46: Never appear too Perfect
Appearing better than others is always dangerous, but most dangerous of all is to appear to have no faults or weaknesses. Envy creates silent enemies. It is smart to occasionally display defects, and admit to harmless vices, in order to deflect envy and appear more human and approachable. Only gods and the dead can seem perfect with impunity.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.