OamImrsNemo
Don Juan
So I have this FB Ive been see'in were not dating and she's made it clear she doesnt want that....So Should I gift her or anything special for V-day....Or anyone for that matter or is this V-day really AFC day?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Valentines for chumps or Dj's?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Lord Sidious
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Hi!
If she doesn´t want to date you (or at best, if she is undecided), the last this you should do is to give her gifts. But the LAST of LAST of LAST of things you should do is to give her a gift on V-day.
Do not persue her, or try to impress her. Just try to interest her. Don´t be to available and don´t you ever, ever give her all the power.
And keep in mind, if she doesn´t want, there are thousands of women as good or better that her.
Take care, dude.
If she doesn´t want to date you (or at best, if she is undecided), the last this you should do is to give her gifts. But the LAST of LAST of LAST of things you should do is to give her a gift on V-day.
Do not persue her, or try to impress her. Just try to interest her. Don´t be to available and don´t you ever, ever give her all the power.
And keep in mind, if she doesn´t want, there are thousands of women as good or better that her.
Take care, dude.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
When I have a girlfriend that I value enough to call a "girlfriend," I have no problem doing nice things on Valentine's Day.OamImrsNemo said:
In your situation, I can't imagine any possible reason why you'd want to get this girl anything for Valentine's. If she wants to be in a V-day category, she needs to step up her game for you.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
No gift is better than a chump gift. However, it's also boring.
Buy her some cheap lingerie to wear for you. Check the clearance stuff at snaz75.com and also look on amazon. Avoid Frederick's, Victoria's Secret, and porno stores due to ridiculous prices.
Note to other guys who might try this - it only works if you are already fvcking the girl, preferably several times. If you have not already had sex, it will come off as creepy and backfire. This is a relationship technique and not a seduction technique.
Buy her some cheap lingerie to wear for you. Check the clearance stuff at snaz75.com and also look on amazon. Avoid Frederick's, Victoria's Secret, and porno stores due to ridiculous prices.
Note to other guys who might try this - it only works if you are already fvcking the girl, preferably several times. If you have not already had sex, it will come off as creepy and backfire. This is a relationship technique and not a seduction technique.
An FB once gave me a coupon book from an Adult store with coupons for all kinds of stuff, from backrubs to BJ's. She tore out the anal, beforehand though. Something like that would be good, and can be played off as a joke if she isnt ok with it.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
OamImrsNemo
Don Juan
Thanks for all the advice...I think Ill stick with not even mentioning it....If she wants to be special she needs to step up her game with me ....
2crudedudes
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What a b*tch!horaholic said:
My ex used to tease me about anal because I had qualms about it. Being the AFC that I am, I eventually budged and since liked it, a TON. Then it was me pushing for it whenever I could. She wouldn't let me all the time, but once in a while, she'd let me get my way. She even gave me a handmade coupon for it. I still have it, hoping to spring it out of nowhere one of these days. Its very unlikely, as she won't even give me head anymore (we're FBs, sorta), but hey, I can dream :S
OamImrsNemo
Don Juan
lol nice
SmoothTalker
Master Don Juan
Homemade crotchless panties, or an orgasm, would make a good gift in this situation.
I wouldn't go overboard with flowers/chocolate/etc.
I wouldn't go overboard with flowers/chocolate/etc.
jnice48146
Don Juan
Give her a Hot C*ck Sandwich!
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
SexxiKing777
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Bible_Belt said:
Why is a cute Gift "boring"? Chicks dig it.
Must everything be about sex sex sex?
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
I said no gift is boring. A small cheap gift is fine if you are only casually dating a girl.