OamImrsNemo
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So I have this FB Ive been see'in were not dating and she's made it clear she doesnt want that....So Should I gift her or anything special for V-day....Or anyone for that matter or is this V-day really AFC day?
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Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Valentines for chumps or Dj's?
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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
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Hi!
If she doesn´t want to date you (or at best, if she is undecided), the last this you should do is to give her gifts. But the LAST of LAST of LAST of things you should do is to give her a gift on V-day.
Do not persue her, or try to impress her. Just try to interest her. Don´t be to available and don´t you ever, ever give her all the power.
And keep in mind, if she doesn´t want, there are thousands of women as good or better that her.
Take care, dude.
If she doesn´t want to date you (or at best, if she is undecided), the last this you should do is to give her gifts. But the LAST of LAST of LAST of things you should do is to give her a gift on V-day.
Do not persue her, or try to impress her. Just try to interest her. Don´t be to available and don´t you ever, ever give her all the power.
And keep in mind, if she doesn´t want, there are thousands of women as good or better that her.
Take care, dude.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
When I have a girlfriend that I value enough to call a "girlfriend," I have no problem doing nice things on Valentine's Day.OamImrsNemo said:
In your situation, I can't imagine any possible reason why you'd want to get this girl anything for Valentine's. If she wants to be in a V-day category, she needs to step up her game for you.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
No gift is better than a chump gift. However, it's also boring.
Buy her some cheap lingerie to wear for you. Check the clearance stuff at snaz75.com and also look on amazon. Avoid Frederick's, Victoria's Secret, and porno stores due to ridiculous prices.
Note to other guys who might try this - it only works if you are already fvcking the girl, preferably several times. If you have not already had sex, it will come off as creepy and backfire. This is a relationship technique and not a seduction technique.
Buy her some cheap lingerie to wear for you. Check the clearance stuff at snaz75.com and also look on amazon. Avoid Frederick's, Victoria's Secret, and porno stores due to ridiculous prices.
Note to other guys who might try this - it only works if you are already fvcking the girl, preferably several times. If you have not already had sex, it will come off as creepy and backfire. This is a relationship technique and not a seduction technique.
An FB once gave me a coupon book from an Adult store with coupons for all kinds of stuff, from backrubs to BJ's. She tore out the anal, beforehand though. Something like that would be good, and can be played off as a joke if she isnt ok with it.
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I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
OamImrsNemo
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Thanks for all the advice...I think Ill stick with not even mentioning it....If she wants to be special she needs to step up her game with me ....
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What a b*tch!horaholic said:
My ex used to tease me about anal because I had qualms about it. Being the AFC that I am, I eventually budged and since liked it, a TON. Then it was me pushing for it whenever I could. She wouldn't let me all the time, but once in a while, she'd let me get my way. She even gave me a handmade coupon for it. I still have it, hoping to spring it out of nowhere one of these days. Its very unlikely, as she won't even give me head anymore (we're FBs, sorta), but hey, I can dream :S
OamImrsNemo
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lol nice
SmoothTalker
Master Don Juan
Homemade crotchless panties, or an orgasm, would make a good gift in this situation.
I wouldn't go overboard with flowers/chocolate/etc.
I wouldn't go overboard with flowers/chocolate/etc.
jnice48146
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Give her a Hot C*ck Sandwich!
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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Bible_Belt said:
Why is a cute Gift "boring"? Chicks dig it.
Must everything be about sex sex sex?
Bible_Belt
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I said no gift is boring. A small cheap gift is fine if you are only casually dating a girl.