Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Valentines for chumps or Dj's?

OamImrsNemo

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So I have this FB Ive been see'in were not dating and she's made it clear she doesnt want that....So Should I gift her or anything special for V-day....Or anyone for that matter or is this V-day really AFC day?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Lord Sidious

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Hi!

If she doesn´t want to date you (or at best, if she is undecided), the last this you should do is to give her gifts. But the LAST of LAST of LAST of things you should do is to give her a gift on V-day.

Do not persue her, or try to impress her. Just try to interest her. Don´t be to available and don´t you ever, ever give her all the power.

And keep in mind, if she doesn´t want, there are thousands of women as good or better that her.


Take care, dude.
 

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OamImrsNemo said:
So I have this FB Ive been see'in were not dating and she's made it clear she doesnt want that....So Should I gift her or anything special for V-day....Or anyone for that matter or is this V-day really AFC day?
When I have a girlfriend that I value enough to call a "girlfriend," I have no problem doing nice things on Valentine's Day.

In your situation, I can't imagine any possible reason why you'd want to get this girl anything for Valentine's. If she wants to be in a V-day category, she needs to step up her game for you.
 

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No gift is better than a chump gift. However, it's also boring.

Buy her some cheap lingerie to wear for you. Check the clearance stuff at snaz75.com and also look on amazon. Avoid Frederick's, Victoria's Secret, and porno stores due to ridiculous prices.

Note to other guys who might try this - it only works if you are already fvcking the girl, preferably several times. If you have not already had sex, it will come off as creepy and backfire. This is a relationship technique and not a seduction technique.
 

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An FB once gave me a coupon book from an Adult store with coupons for all kinds of stuff, from backrubs to BJ's. She tore out the anal, beforehand though. Something like that would be good, and can be played off as a joke if she isnt ok with it.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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OamImrsNemo

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Thanks for all the advice...I think Ill stick with not even mentioning it....If she wants to be special she needs to step up her game with me ....
 

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horaholic said:
An FB once gave me a coupon book from an Adult store with coupons for all kinds of stuff, from backrubs to BJ's. She tore out the anal, beforehand though. Something like that would be good, and can be played off as a joke if she isnt ok with it.
What a b*tch!

My ex used to tease me about anal because I had qualms about it. Being the AFC that I am, I eventually budged and since liked it, a TON. Then it was me pushing for it whenever I could. She wouldn't let me all the time, but once in a while, she'd let me get my way. She even gave me a handmade coupon for it. I still have it, hoping to spring it out of nowhere one of these days. Its very unlikely, as she won't even give me head anymore (we're FBs, sorta), but hey, I can dream :S
 

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he even gave me a handmade coupon for it. I still have it, hoping to spring it out of nowhere one of these days. Its very unlikely, as she won't even give me head anymore (we're FBs, sorta), but hey, I can dream :S
lol nice
 

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Homemade crotchless panties, or an orgasm, would make a good gift in this situation.

I wouldn't go overboard with flowers/chocolate/etc.
 

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Give her a Hot C*ck Sandwich!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Bible_Belt said:
No gift is better than a chump gift. However, it's also boring.

Buy her some cheap lingerie to wear for you. Check the clearance stuff at snaz75.com and also look on amazon. Avoid Frederick's, Victoria's Secret, and porno stores due to ridiculous prices.

Note to other guys who might try this - it only works if you are already fvcking the girl, preferably several times. If you have not already had sex, it will come off as creepy and backfire. This is a relationship technique and not a seduction technique.

Why is a cute Gift "boring"? Chicks dig it.

Must everything be about sex sex sex?
 
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