"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Valentine's Day, plus plates

AllDay85

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I figured I'd go out with my main chick for Valentines and blow off the other plates. We're not dating but we've been seeing/sleeping with each other about four months now.

What do you guys think about getting her chocolates or something like that?

Obviously jewelry or anything sappy is out of the question.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Desdinova

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I tell all my women that I don't celebrate Valentine's Day because it's too commercial. Do something with her, maybe get her a card that basically says "you're awesome", and she'll be fine.
 

Yewki

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I tell all my women that I don't celebrate Valentine's Day because it's too commercial. Do something with her, maybe get her a card that basically says "you're awesome", and she'll be fine.
Doesn't celebrate Valentines Day... makes a point to do something and gets her a card ;)
 

Desdinova

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Doesn't celebrate Valentines Day... makes a point to do something and gets her a card ;)
That's to get out of buying fvcking chocolates, flowers, and all that other bull5hit. You still have to do something with her to avoid making her feel left out amongst her gfs, but you don't want to be declaring your love with all the junk that the AFCs shower their women with.
 

Bible_Belt

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A gift is like taking a girl out to eat. I'll do it on rare occasion when it is somewhere I want to go, when I want to go there. So when you give a gift, make it something that you have experienced before and enjoy, and you want to share with her. Or make it something you would like the two of you to experience together. Pick out some chocolate that sounds good to you: http://www.thefiftybest.com/food/best_chocolate/ and a bottle of wine you think you'd enjoy. Tell her you bought her something great, but make her share it with you, largely under the pretense of it being something you wanted to do anyway.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Scaramouche

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Dear All Day,
Never just "Blow off" Plates...Keep them around for when you need them...For this one
A Card is certainly in order...fill it with imaginative prose derived on line...Offer her your undying love...Keep the model for future use...Write a similar amended card to all the others too...Don't spend Money on her,or them...A box of Chockies...A shared bottle of Wine..Never spoil them....Whatever you do,don't ditch your other loves...They give emotional stability,so why bruise their little egos?
 
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