"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Valentine's Day, plus plates

AllDay85

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I figured I'd go out with my main chick for Valentines and blow off the other plates. We're not dating but we've been seeing/sleeping with each other about four months now.

What do you guys think about getting her chocolates or something like that?

Obviously jewelry or anything sappy is out of the question.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Desdinova

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I tell all my women that I don't celebrate Valentine's Day because it's too commercial. Do something with her, maybe get her a card that basically says "you're awesome", and she'll be fine.
 

Yewki

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I tell all my women that I don't celebrate Valentine's Day because it's too commercial. Do something with her, maybe get her a card that basically says "you're awesome", and she'll be fine.
Doesn't celebrate Valentines Day... makes a point to do something and gets her a card ;)
 

Desdinova

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Doesn't celebrate Valentines Day... makes a point to do something and gets her a card ;)
That's to get out of buying fvcking chocolates, flowers, and all that other bull5hit. You still have to do something with her to avoid making her feel left out amongst her gfs, but you don't want to be declaring your love with all the junk that the AFCs shower their women with.
 

Bible_Belt

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A gift is like taking a girl out to eat. I'll do it on rare occasion when it is somewhere I want to go, when I want to go there. So when you give a gift, make it something that you have experienced before and enjoy, and you want to share with her. Or make it something you would like the two of you to experience together. Pick out some chocolate that sounds good to you: http://www.thefiftybest.com/food/best_chocolate/ and a bottle of wine you think you'd enjoy. Tell her you bought her something great, but make her share it with you, largely under the pretense of it being something you wanted to do anyway.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Scaramouche

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Dear All Day,
Never just "Blow off" Plates...Keep them around for when you need them...For this one
A Card is certainly in order...fill it with imaginative prose derived on line...Offer her your undying love...Keep the model for future use...Write a similar amended card to all the others too...Don't spend Money on her,or them...A box of Chockies...A shared bottle of Wine..Never spoil them....Whatever you do,don't ditch your other loves...They give emotional stability,so why bruise their little egos?
 
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