"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Valentine's Day, only second date

Leporello

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Starting seeing a girl at the beggining of the month, she's returning home for this weekend (and boy isn't that encouraging my paranoia) so assuming all goes well I'll be seeing her again the weekend after Valentine's Day. I haven't even seriously kissed her yet; should I buy her a little something? Even mention that it was Valentine's Day?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DonGorgon

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Leporello said:
Starting seeing a girl at the beggining of the month, she's returning home for this weekend (and boy isn't that encouraging my paranoia) so assuming all goes well I'll be seeing her again the weekend after Valentine's Day. I haven't even seriously kissed her yet; should I buy her a little something? Even mention that it was Valentine's Day?
NO! but you can ask her what she did.... and listen to the lie...
 

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DonGorgon said:
NO! but you can ask her what she did.... and listen to the lie...
To be fair... on our first date she did talk a great deal about how her older sister was expecting and that it was due any day now, and that is why she's away... but that is not finally the point.
 

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Leporello said:
Starting seeing a girl at the beggining of the month, she's returning home for this weekend (and boy isn't that encouraging my paranoia) so assuming all goes well I'll be seeing her again the weekend after Valentine's Day. I haven't even seriously kissed her yet; should I buy her a little something? Even mention that it was Valentine's Day?
Definitely not. The best gift you can give a woman is to keep her in a state of wonder. No need to give her any gift. Have you asked yourself what I'm getting from her if I give her something now---when I know there is nothing substantial between us. If your response is her saying "thank you. You're so sweet." Then, don't. Wait till she gives you a gift and tell her " oh well, I have a gift for you too... Close your eyes. " Then plant a kiss on her lips. The best Valentine's gift she'd probably have....

-Amoka
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Valentines day is a farce. You have to believe in yourself and shrug off the societal responsibility of heart day that's forced upon you. If you haven't been dating someone for that long and valentines day happens upon you, be cool and make the other person aware that you haven't been a "couple" for long enough for the world to dictate what should and should not be happening between you two. Strength and confidence aren't givens as a man, they're earned and respected.
 

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If you aren't officially together, don't get her anything.
 

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ValleyDJing said:
If you aren't officially together, don't get her anything.
See ValleyDJ backs my opinion 100% thus it must be true! You have no obligation and should act accordingly!
 
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