Starting seeing a girl at the beggining of the month, she's returning home for this weekend (and boy isn't that encouraging my paranoia) so assuming all goes well I'll be seeing her again the weekend after Valentine's Day. I haven't even seriously kissed her yet; should I buy her a little something? Even mention that it was Valentine's Day?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Valentine's Day, only second date
- Thread starter Leporello
- Start date
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
DonGorgon
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NO! but you can ask her what she did.... and listen to the lie...Leporello said:
To be fair... on our first date she did talk a great deal about how her older sister was expecting and that it was due any day now, and that is why she's away... but that is not finally the point.DonGorgon said:
amoka
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Definitely not. The best gift you can give a woman is to keep her in a state of wonder. No need to give her any gift. Have you asked yourself what I'm getting from her if I give her something now---when I know there is nothing substantial between us. If your response is her saying "thank you. You're so sweet." Then, don't. Wait till she gives you a gift and tell her " oh well, I have a gift for you too... Close your eyes. " Then plant a kiss on her lips. The best Valentine's gift she'd probably have....Leporello said:
-Amoka
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
PRMoon
Master Don Juan
Valentines day is a farce. You have to believe in yourself and shrug off the societal responsibility of heart day that's forced upon you. If you haven't been dating someone for that long and valentines day happens upon you, be cool and make the other person aware that you haven't been a "couple" for long enough for the world to dictate what should and should not be happening between you two. Strength and confidence aren't givens as a man, they're earned and respected.
ValleyDJing
Master Don Juan
If you aren't officially together, don't get her anything.
PRMoon
Master Don Juan
See ValleyDJ backs my opinion 100% thus it must be true! You have no obligation and should act accordingly!ValleyDJing said: