"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Valentines day ideas?

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Seeing this girl after work on Sunday night. Been seeing her for a few months, not sure what we should do.

Here's the thing: she never eats around me so I don't want to do dinner, doesn't like going to the movies, ice skating or bowling. I've shot pool with her, hung out at a hookah bar and we've been to a bunch of parties together.

Looking for something new to do. I live in a big city so there is probably something I'm overlooking. She's 19 so bars are out of the question.

Any ideas?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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why u focusing on all the stuff she doesn't like.. do the things u like and she can come for the ride.. if she doesn't like it.. tough luck ur the catch not her.
 

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Valentines day break up

I recommend cooking a nice meal with her
edit Sorry about the title, I thought I was making a new thread
 

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SchoolBoy said:
why u focusing on all the stuff she doesn't like.. do the things u like and she can come for the ride.. if she doesn't like it.. tough luck ur the catch not her.
...really wasn't looking for advice on how to be an alpha male or whatever, I already know all that stuff. I wanted a fresh idea. I'm not focusing on what she doesn't like, just didn't want anyone to suggest that stuff.

background so i don't get anymore replies like schoolboys: I've been seeing 4 other girls besides her. By seeing I mean (usually) going to their house, ****ing them and leaving. shes the one I picked for Sunday because shes my favorite, I actually like spending time with her. I've been seeing her since November and there's not much I can think of that we haven't done.

Does anyone have any actual suggestions?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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CarlitosWay

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Blank said:
...really wasn't looking for advice on how to be an alpha male or whatever, I already know all that stuff. I wanted a fresh idea. I'm not focusing on what she doesn't like, just didn't want anyone to suggest that stuff.

background so i don't get anymore replies like schoolboys: I've been seeing 4 other girls besides her. By seeing I mean (usually) going to their house, ****ing them and leaving. shes the one I picked for Sunday because shes my favorite, I actually like spending time with her. I've been seeing her since November and there's not much I can think of that we haven't done.

Does anyone have any actual suggestions?
Ice skating? Going to the grocery store together and picking out some foods to cook together and have a couple glasses of wine.

I dunno, I've been feeling lazy all I'm doing is giving a girl a small cake with "Valid for one BJ" written on it.
 

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is this girl your girlfriend? If so this shouldnt be an issue at this point

you said you've been seeing her for months tho so whats the deal w/ you guys
 
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