"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Valentines Day discussion thread (Merged threads)

SamePendo

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There is ¨love¨ and there is LOVE. Love is a thing that is shared, comes both ways.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Valentine again

Hey, I know this topic has been brought up a number of times but I have to get this out.

A lot of my single girl friends have been asking me about what I'm doing for Valentines and I end up telling them I have no plan because I really didn't care about the day.

These girls are just old friends living in other states so they're only asking me for fun so I can't ask them for dates on that night. Its just that I heard one of them say that they would rather spend the day with their girl friends or alone than date a guy friend.

Is this true???

Theres a girl who I gave up a while ago because I've seen too many red flags (confirmed by the DJs here awhile ago.) and when I asked her out for a movie on a regular day, she suggested that maybe we should change it to friday (V-day) instead.

Of course she didn't mention the word valentines and I had no clue it was on friday back then, I told her I'll decide later.

So maybe some girls would rather be seen and be with a guy on that day even if he is only her LJBFed guy friend?

On the other hand, I know a girl who showed a lot of buying signals (touching, dated) but I haven't gone too much besides casual dating. I think I would have a fairly good chance of asking her out on that day instead. But somebody here mentioned not to go out with a girl unless she is your LTR.

So any ideas? I'm thinking about just going to the movies with the 1st girl on a regular day and ask the 2nd girl on v-day now. What do you DJs think?
 

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I just forgot what the name for this is,, but it is from psychology,, that they give themselves reasons to justify something they do. For example, they dont have a date, they make up by themselves, reasons to justify why they dont go on a date (they like the single life, it would mean spending money, dont want to get their feelings hurt again). Another example, you rob a bank. You give yourself reasons to rob a bank, or to have robbed the bank (you needed the money to eat, you owed your mother money, she doesnt have the fault your buissines didnt work, etc).
So, ofcourse everyone wants to have a date!, everyone wants to have sex, especially girls on valentine day. They just make up reasons to not have it.
 

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damn i wasnt expecting that much of a reply,but all your guys opinons were awsome!

this girl who asked me to be her valentine invited me over to her house since her parents are going to be gone! but the weird thing is she wont have sex till marriage the only thing i am going to end up doing is prolly playing hopscotch or some crap.I am going to utilize my dj skills to get me something outta the night!
 

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Valentine's Day is coming.....any ideas for your Girlfriends...or wives?

Well....i am gonna make her go for a treasure hunt...making her think that it's one of her secret admirers!!...What are your guys's ideas?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Simple playa style.....


eleven white roses and a compact mirror, with a card explaining some b.s. or another, but basically letting her know there are only 11 roses.

Make sure she sees the card before the compact.

When she ask why there are only 11 roses, have her open up the mirror and look at herself in it, and tell her she's lookin at the twelvth rose.

And a box of white chocolates.

Probably gonna have shorty come over here and watch a movie.

later that night, might have shorty over again to eat chocolates, sip on some Alize and get my freak on.......

100% playa style
 

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eleven white roses and a compact mirror, with a card explaining some b.s. or another, but basically letting her know there are only 11 roses.

Yuck
 

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Originally posted by Young Juan
Simple playa style.....

When she ask why there are only 11 roses, have her open up the mirror and look at herself in it, and tell her she's lookin at the twelvth rose.
Playa style? More like average frustrated chump style. I say give her a $5 Gift Certificate to McDonald's and tell her to take herself out that night while you go fvck some NEW *****.
 

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Playa style? More like average frustrated chump style. I say give her a $5 Gift Certificate to McDonald's and tell her to take herself out that night while you go fvck some NEW *****.

lol, or spend the night reading the dj bible over and over
 

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I'm going to get my woman a card, write some stuff in it, and 1 flower - however it won't be a rose. That's too damn common. I'm not sure the type of flower I'm going to get her, but it will be something along the lines of her favorite color. One flower can speak more than a dozen roses.

Perhaps I'll take her out to dinner, give her a massage afterwards, and get into some "fun activities" ;)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You guys want to know how to make her remember you and be unlike all the other guys? Here's how, get her NOTHING! lol We all know women like drama, so why not get her nothing and give her the drama she desires? THAT can be her gift, lol.

Hell, if it doesn't work out you can always have some gift nearby to pull out if she's throwing fvcks and a$$hole at you like a sailor, and then pull the gift out in the middle of it and tell her you didn't want to be like other guys and was waiting for tomorrow to give it to her. This will make her feel like sh1t and work in your favor.

Ok, and with that said, seriously guys, what do I get my girl?? haha, j/k.
 

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Originally posted by vectorz
Playa style? More like average frustrated chump style. I say give her a $5 Gift Certificate to McDonald's and tell her to take herself out that night while you go fvck some NEW *****.
I was very curious about all of this, so I decided to ask my Magic Eight Ball a few questions.

Magic Eight Ball, is Young Juan's idea a good one?
Reply hazy, try again later.

Magic Eight Ball, is Young Juan more likely to get some play than vectorz?
Signs point to yes.

How likely is it that vectorz will get laid on Valentine's Day?
You gotta be f*ckin' kidding me.

There you have it, guys. The 8 Ball don't lie.
 

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Originally posted by SamePendo
I just forgot what the name for this is,, but it is from psychology,, that they give themselves reasons to justify something they do.
It's called cognitive dissonance.
 

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Then what's your ideas GC??
Young Juan atleast was one of the few that tried to give ideas.

What's your style to get some vectorz??
Cuz i am in a LTR.
So u wanna make sure she knows why she's in the "LT"...rather than just in the "R"
 

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Originally posted by Bungo Pony
I'm going to get my woman a card, write some stuff in it, and 1 flower - however it won't be a rose. That's too damn common. I'm not sure the type of flower I'm going to get her, but it will be something along the lines of her favorite color. One flower can speak more than a dozen roses.
Sure, how about a Dandelion? Or a bouquet of hemp?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Originally posted by vectorz
Playa style? More like average frustrated chump style. I say give her a $5 Gift Certificate to McDonald's and tell her to take herself out that night while you go fvck some NEW *****.

LMFAO


That's hilarious. I hope you get slapped....HARD.
 

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Giovanni Casanova = god


i hate this damn day but women and afc's seem to love it
 

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well heres my situation. Ive been dating this girl for 2 weeks now, and I can already tell that she wants a relationship. Im not going to give in for quite awhile though, but i have already been acting as her boyfriend, and she acts as my girlfriend its just not "official". So, in her mind Im her boyfriend, what do I do for V day? Im planning on making her a construction paper card written in crayon with my left hand to look like a 2nd grader made it, and have her take me to dinner and pay. Sounds like a deal to me. Think thatll work?
 
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Re: New Holiday

Originally posted by RKTek
Which is why a new holiday has been created. March 20th is now officially "Steak & Bl*wJ*b Day." Simple, effective and self-explanatory...this
holiday has been created so your ladies can have a day to show your man just how much you love him . No cards, no flowers, no special nights on the
town or other AFC cr*p, the name of the holiday explains it all...just a steak and a BJ.

That's it. This twin pairing of Valentine's Day and Steak & Bl*wJ*b Day will usher in a new age of love as men everywhere will try THAT much harder in February to ensure a more memorable March!
It's like a perpetual love machine.

RKTek,

FnX has changed that day in my life as well! Glad to see a New Englander DJ around who enjoys that day.

GCb
 
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i got a dance to go to that night and yo its gonna be bangin...

i'm gunna work on my DJ skills, grind a lil bit, and get some #s
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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