Using the "opposites attract" theory in order to get hot girls. Thoughts and experiences.

[Good Gao]

So a while back, I started noticing a trend in what I saw hot girls go for in a guy.

It was rare for me to see a hot blonde with a blond guy but at the same time, I often saw a lot of hot brunettes and tanned women with blond, redhead, and pale skinned guys.

For reference, I am an Asian guy and I notice that recently, when I go for white girls I actually have better luck with blondes and redheads than I do with brunettes. Among my friends that aren't white, they struggle the most with tanned brunettes and I notice this on a big scale too.

When I see any minority with a hot white girl, she is usually a blonde or redhead, and if she is a brunette she is pale and blue eyed, not tanned looking.

There are also sayings that black guys slay in Sweden while blond haired guys clean up in South America and Southern Europe.

I wonder if this carries over on to how we should go after hot girls.

Should Asian and ethnic guys target blonde women and redheads while avoiding tanned women?

I will note though, black women don't discriminate at all and will readily go for guys of other races and what I talk about on this thread is more prominent among white women.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Genetic diversity makes healthy babies. That's what is behind a black guy doing well in Sweden or a blonde guy doing well in South America - it's a woman's instinct to help her reproduce successfully.

 

[Good Gao]

Genetic diversity makes healthy babies. That's what is behind a black guy doing well in Sweden or a blonde guy doing well in South America - it's a woman's instinct to help her reproduce successfully.

word man word

 

[marmel75]

You'll find in the vast majority of cases that likes like each other. In fact its a deep seated evolutionary human condition. Its why there are things like racism, elitism, etc...people like those who are similar to them and tend to dislike and be fearful of those who aren't...it is why groups of people tend to live and be around others of the same race/ethnicity/nationality.

This was shown in a psychological study to be an instinctual behaviour and not learned....when even very young children were shown pictures of people who were different races it activated the fear portion of the brain that was related to fight or flight while pictures of people of the same race did not.
Opposites attract is a nice theory but its just that...a theory, and you'll find in 90% of cases it holds no water. It would mean that humans have to be one way for 99% of things and a completely different way for the other 1% and that makes little sense.

 

[Spidah]

You'll find in the vast majority of cases that likes like each other. In fact its a deep seated evolutionary human condition. Its why there are things like racism, elitism, etc...people like those who are similar to them and tend to dislike and be fearful of those who aren't...it is why groups of people tend to live and be around others of the same race/ethnicity/nationality.

This was shown in a psychological study to be an instinctual behaviour and not learned....when even very young children were shown pictures of people who were different races it activated the fear portion of the brain that was related to fight or flight while pictures of people of the same race did not.
Opposites attract is a nice theory but its just that...a theory, and you'll find in 90% of cases it holds no water. It would mean that humans have to be one way for 99% of things and a completely different way for the other 1% and that makes little sense.

This is only true for people with limited exposure to other races/cultures.

If you've never seen a dog before you might be intimidated the first time you see one. Once you've been exposed to dogs that bias goes away.

 

[Spaz]

Genetic diversity makes healthy babies. That's what is behind a black guy doing well in Sweden or a blonde guy doing well in South America - it's a woman's instinct to help her reproduce successfully.

True.

 

[Good Gao]

True.

I miss this guy

 

[BackInTheGame78]

That's a made up lie that has been shown to be bullsh!t. Much more often similar people with a lot in common end up together. The false "opposites attract" mantra needs to just go away.

 

[lamath]

Not sure about this one... but i think the logic bible logic is on point.

But i know that overall attraction to other ppl is link to novelty especialy for women and that also be a reason why oposite attract.
It is also a way to expand the gene pool.

 

[espanish]

I don't believe in opposites attract. I have tried it but every time it's like "I have nothing in common with this person, what am i going to tell her?" and more importantly I can't have respect for her. I can't understand a blonde girl who goes to clubs and gets drunk out of her mind on a typical saturday night. I have no respect for her. my friend tells me it's just animalistic instincts and just look at her legs and forget all of this other stuff. But I can't. I can't get myself to talk to someone for whom I have zero respect, not even for one minute. I can understand and respect a brunette who's a computer science major. or an engineer.

 

[Focal core]

I guess its explain why i get way more attention from chinese girl than my own race.

 

[RangerMIke]

Genetic diversity makes healthy babies. That's what is behind a black guy doing well in Sweden or a blonde guy doing well in South America - it's a woman's instinct to help her reproduce successfully.

I thought everyone knew this. It's also why chicks go for dudes with foreign accents.

Being a white guy with grey eyes, In my life I've always had better success with Asian and Latin women.

 

[MatureDJ]

I just wish I had more interest by slender women rather than fat chicks.