tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
Say a girl you’re interested in also has a pretty hot friend. Is it kosher or beneficial to casually make jokes and mention that her friend is pretty attractive? Or could that come across the wrong way?
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Using her friends as competition
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Is it kosher or beneficial to casually make jokes and mention that her friend is pretty attractive? Or could that come across the wrong way?
It's the verbal equivalent of giving her a back-handed b!tch slap across the face. There could be a time and place for that, like if she has just said something equally awful to you as a giant sh!ttest - this is trashy wh0re behavior, imo, but it happens. However, if things are going well, there is no reason to dish out verbal abuse. If she is doing well, then reward her, and don't tell her that her friend is hot.
It's the verbal equivalent of giving her a back-handed b!tch slap across the face. There could be a time and place for that, like if she has just said something equally awful to you as a giant sh!ttest - this is trashy wh0re behavior, imo, but it happens. However, if things are going well, there is no reason to dish out verbal abuse. If she is doing well, then reward her, and don't tell her that her friend is hot.
tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
Oh okay. Thanks for the powerful advice. The only reason why I asked is because I get the impression from this website that you should let her know there's always competition and sometime's it good to act like a "jerk".Bible_Belt said:
I figured casually mentioning an attractive friend or making a joke would achieve that, but if it's as bad as you make it out to be, I definately won't do it.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
Until she is actully giving herself to you, her friend is fair game.
tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
I'm definately getting some mixed responses about this one...
I tell them they look nice, nothing more.tsmith2334 said:
Others might disagree, but my personality doesn't flow with working the jealousy angle.
On the other hand, if I'm genuinely interested I might work it as a back up.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
I just don't give a sh!t. I told my girlfriend that most of her friends were hot. She trusts me enough that I won't go out with any of them even though her friends want to have sex/relationships with me.
I feel that it is just me being honest. I don't sugarcoat things for people and I am completely honet.
My girlfriend said, "Don't I look like sh!t."
Me: "Hell yeah. Your atttitude today isn't much better."
comic_relief
I feel that it is just me being honest. I don't sugarcoat things for people and I am completely honet.
My girlfriend said, "Don't I look like sh!t."
Me: "Hell yeah. Your atttitude today isn't much better."
comic_relief