“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Using her friends as competition

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Say a girl you’re interested in also has a pretty hot friend. Is it kosher or beneficial to casually make jokes and mention that her friend is pretty attractive? Or could that come across the wrong way?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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It's better if you actually hook up with her friend.
 

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Yeah, go for it. Unless her friend's a guy. Not that there's anything wrong with that!
 

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Is it kosher or beneficial to casually make jokes and mention that her friend is pretty attractive? Or could that come across the wrong way?

It's the verbal equivalent of giving her a back-handed b!tch slap across the face. There could be a time and place for that, like if she has just said something equally awful to you as a giant sh!ttest - this is trashy wh0re behavior, imo, but it happens. However, if things are going well, there is no reason to dish out verbal abuse. If she is doing well, then reward her, and don't tell her that her friend is hot.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
Is it kosher or beneficial to casually make jokes and mention that her friend is pretty attractive? Or could that come across the wrong way?

It's the verbal equivalent of giving her a back-handed b!tch slap across the face. There could be a time and place for that, like if she has just said something equally awful to you as a giant sh!ttest - this is trashy wh0re behavior, imo, but it happens. However, if things are going well, there is no reason to dish out verbal abuse. If she is doing well, then reward her, and don't tell her that her friend is hot.
Oh okay. Thanks for the powerful advice. The only reason why I asked is because I get the impression from this website that you should let her know there's always competition and sometime's it good to act like a "jerk".

I figured casually mentioning an attractive friend or making a joke would achieve that, but if it's as bad as you make it out to be, I definately won't do it.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Until she is actully giving herself to you, her friend is fair game.
 

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Until you guys are actually "together", hooking up with her friends can ONLY result in her wanting you more.
 

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I'm definately getting some mixed responses about this one...
 

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tsmith2334 said:
Say a girl you’re interested in also has a pretty hot friend. Is it kosher or beneficial to casually make jokes and mention that her friend is pretty attractive? Or could that come across the wrong way?
I tell them they look nice, nothing more.

Others might disagree, but my personality doesn't flow with working the jealousy angle.

On the other hand, if I'm genuinely interested I might work it as a back up.

:whistle:
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I just don't give a sh!t. I told my girlfriend that most of her friends were hot. She trusts me enough that I won't go out with any of them even though her friends want to have sex/relationships with me.

I feel that it is just me being honest. I don't sugarcoat things for people and I am completely honet.

My girlfriend said, "Don't I look like sh!t."
Me: "Hell yeah. Your atttitude today isn't much better."

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