tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
Say a girl you’re interested in also has a pretty hot friend. Is it kosher or beneficial to casually make jokes and mention that her friend is pretty attractive? Or could that come across the wrong way?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Using her friends as competition
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Is it kosher or beneficial to casually make jokes and mention that her friend is pretty attractive? Or could that come across the wrong way?
It's the verbal equivalent of giving her a back-handed b!tch slap across the face. There could be a time and place for that, like if she has just said something equally awful to you as a giant sh!ttest - this is trashy wh0re behavior, imo, but it happens. However, if things are going well, there is no reason to dish out verbal abuse. If she is doing well, then reward her, and don't tell her that her friend is hot.
It's the verbal equivalent of giving her a back-handed b!tch slap across the face. There could be a time and place for that, like if she has just said something equally awful to you as a giant sh!ttest - this is trashy wh0re behavior, imo, but it happens. However, if things are going well, there is no reason to dish out verbal abuse. If she is doing well, then reward her, and don't tell her that her friend is hot.
tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
Oh okay. Thanks for the powerful advice. The only reason why I asked is because I get the impression from this website that you should let her know there's always competition and sometime's it good to act like a "jerk".Bible_Belt said:
I figured casually mentioning an attractive friend or making a joke would achieve that, but if it's as bad as you make it out to be, I definately won't do it.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
Until she is actully giving herself to you, her friend is fair game.
tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
I'm definately getting some mixed responses about this one...
I tell them they look nice, nothing more.tsmith2334 said:
Others might disagree, but my personality doesn't flow with working the jealousy angle.
On the other hand, if I'm genuinely interested I might work it as a back up.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
I just don't give a sh!t. I told my girlfriend that most of her friends were hot. She trusts me enough that I won't go out with any of them even though her friends want to have sex/relationships with me.
I feel that it is just me being honest. I don't sugarcoat things for people and I am completely honet.
My girlfriend said, "Don't I look like sh!t."
Me: "Hell yeah. Your atttitude today isn't much better."
comic_relief
I feel that it is just me being honest. I don't sugarcoat things for people and I am completely honet.
My girlfriend said, "Don't I look like sh!t."
Me: "Hell yeah. Your atttitude today isn't much better."
comic_relief