tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
Say a girl you’re interested in also has a pretty hot friend. Is it kosher or beneficial to casually make jokes and mention that her friend is pretty attractive? Or could that come across the wrong way?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Using her friends as competition
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Is it kosher or beneficial to casually make jokes and mention that her friend is pretty attractive? Or could that come across the wrong way?
It's the verbal equivalent of giving her a back-handed b!tch slap across the face. There could be a time and place for that, like if she has just said something equally awful to you as a giant sh!ttest - this is trashy wh0re behavior, imo, but it happens. However, if things are going well, there is no reason to dish out verbal abuse. If she is doing well, then reward her, and don't tell her that her friend is hot.
It's the verbal equivalent of giving her a back-handed b!tch slap across the face. There could be a time and place for that, like if she has just said something equally awful to you as a giant sh!ttest - this is trashy wh0re behavior, imo, but it happens. However, if things are going well, there is no reason to dish out verbal abuse. If she is doing well, then reward her, and don't tell her that her friend is hot.
tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
Oh okay. Thanks for the powerful advice. The only reason why I asked is because I get the impression from this website that you should let her know there's always competition and sometime's it good to act like a "jerk".Bible_Belt said:
I figured casually mentioning an attractive friend or making a joke would achieve that, but if it's as bad as you make it out to be, I definately won't do it.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
Until she is actully giving herself to you, her friend is fair game.
tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
I'm definately getting some mixed responses about this one...
I tell them they look nice, nothing more.tsmith2334 said:
Others might disagree, but my personality doesn't flow with working the jealousy angle.
On the other hand, if I'm genuinely interested I might work it as a back up.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
I just don't give a sh!t. I told my girlfriend that most of her friends were hot. She trusts me enough that I won't go out with any of them even though her friends want to have sex/relationships with me.
I feel that it is just me being honest. I don't sugarcoat things for people and I am completely honet.
My girlfriend said, "Don't I look like sh!t."
Me: "Hell yeah. Your atttitude today isn't much better."
comic_relief
I feel that it is just me being honest. I don't sugarcoat things for people and I am completely honet.
My girlfriend said, "Don't I look like sh!t."
Me: "Hell yeah. Your atttitude today isn't much better."
comic_relief