tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
Say a girl you’re interested in also has a pretty hot friend. Is it kosher or beneficial to casually make jokes and mention that her friend is pretty attractive? Or could that come across the wrong way?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Using her friends as competition
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Is it kosher or beneficial to casually make jokes and mention that her friend is pretty attractive? Or could that come across the wrong way?
It's the verbal equivalent of giving her a back-handed b!tch slap across the face. There could be a time and place for that, like if she has just said something equally awful to you as a giant sh!ttest - this is trashy wh0re behavior, imo, but it happens. However, if things are going well, there is no reason to dish out verbal abuse. If she is doing well, then reward her, and don't tell her that her friend is hot.
It's the verbal equivalent of giving her a back-handed b!tch slap across the face. There could be a time and place for that, like if she has just said something equally awful to you as a giant sh!ttest - this is trashy wh0re behavior, imo, but it happens. However, if things are going well, there is no reason to dish out verbal abuse. If she is doing well, then reward her, and don't tell her that her friend is hot.
tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
Oh okay. Thanks for the powerful advice. The only reason why I asked is because I get the impression from this website that you should let her know there's always competition and sometime's it good to act like a "jerk".Bible_Belt said:
I figured casually mentioning an attractive friend or making a joke would achieve that, but if it's as bad as you make it out to be, I definately won't do it.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
Until she is actully giving herself to you, her friend is fair game.
tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
I'm definately getting some mixed responses about this one...
I tell them they look nice, nothing more.tsmith2334 said:
Others might disagree, but my personality doesn't flow with working the jealousy angle.
On the other hand, if I'm genuinely interested I might work it as a back up.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
I just don't give a sh!t. I told my girlfriend that most of her friends were hot. She trusts me enough that I won't go out with any of them even though her friends want to have sex/relationships with me.
I feel that it is just me being honest. I don't sugarcoat things for people and I am completely honet.
My girlfriend said, "Don't I look like sh!t."
Me: "Hell yeah. Your atttitude today isn't much better."
comic_relief
I feel that it is just me being honest. I don't sugarcoat things for people and I am completely honet.
My girlfriend said, "Don't I look like sh!t."
Me: "Hell yeah. Your atttitude today isn't much better."
comic_relief