Kibblez'n'Bitz
Don Juan
Really? "So desu ne!"'Duasun' is Japanese for 'Don Juan'
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Really? "So desu ne!"'Duasun' is Japanese for 'Don Juan'
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
LOLOriginally posted by Starman
'Duasun' is Japanese for 'Don Juan'
I am from Serbia and Montenegro (former Yugoslavia), but Duasun has nothing in common with my real name (Bojan).Originally posted by Kibblez'n'Bitz
I think I can help.. Are you by chance of Yugoslav nationality, as your name/alias sounds like 'Dusan' which is a yugoslav name and I happen to have a similar name/nationality as my ethnic background..
This thread is indeed weird but I could probably help 'translate' lol
please explain exactly how everything transpired. i'm still clueless as to why you chose a bar, how you knew she would be there, and how it all went down.Originally posted by Duasun
I am from Serbia and Montenegro (former Yugoslavia), but Duasun has nothing in common with my real name (Bojan).
Anyway, at the end it was pretty fun, and she laughed all the way long...![]()
Well, i'm glad that you guys have a good laugh here, which proves me that it was a crazy and funny and ofc stupid idea...
Keep laughing and be in the good mood!!!
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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Ha, I knew it!I am from Serbia and Montenegro (former Yugoslavia), but Duasun has nothing in common with my real name (Bojan).
LOL...there's only ONE language that crosses all human cultural barriers.Originally posted by Duasun
Pa hvala Kibblez, ali, malo je tvoj serbski cudan za mene... Inace je sve ok. Medjutim, nervira me kada me ovaj Starman zeza. Ne razume moj cilj, a i ja sam pogresio sto sam uopste pozeleo da postavim ovde ovo glupavo pitanje...Inace bibliju sam daunloadovao, i citao je...
Starman, that was a really ql pair of mf bears... And, you gave me an idea...
I got to tell that there is a lot more background in the story about that bear and her... And i cannot explain it... Not in english...
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Originally posted by Starman
"Pa hvala Kibblez, ali, malo je tvoj serbski cudan za mene... Inace je sve ok. Medjutim, nervira me kada me ovaj Starman zeza. Ne razume moj cilj, a i ja sam pogresio sto sam uopste pozeleo da postavim ovde ovo glupavo pitanje... Inace bibliju sam daunloadovao, i citao je... Kao da pokusava zgaziti na moje novosteceno samopouzdanje. NAravno, ne mislim da to radi namerno. Medjutim, to i nije toliko bitno. Sta god ga pali... "
Translation: "These fools in the US don't know the real way to a womans heart is by hiding Ceramic Bears in her workplace. I have tried this 100 times and been laid everytime. Starman has given me a good idea! I think Im going to hide polar bears on my c0ck then tell the dirty wench, SHE CANT HAVE IT!"
OMG YOU ARE HILARIOUS!! first you dug up that completely-appropriate polar bear pic and now this. in my 3-4 years of browsing forums, i have never laughed so hard.Originally posted by Starman
heheh "what do you want from me"
I want to know your secret. How did this work? what was her reaction? where did you hide it? In a fishtank? a pickle jar? behind a bottle of Finlandia?
We are here to learn..and did you Tell her she cant have it? did she get over her fear?
The suspense is unbearable
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I will let you guys to think whatever you want to think. Anyway, you do have a sense of humour Starman.Originally posted by Starman
heheh "what do you want from me"
I want to know your secret. How did this work? what was her reaction? where did you hide it? In a fishtank? a pickle jar? behind a bottle of Finlandia?
We are here to learn..and did you Tell her she cant have it? did she get over her fear?
The suspense is unbearable
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.