mellowmood23
Don Juan
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Im not sure I understand your question.Maximus Rex said:Question, how did inquiring about her having a boyfriend help your game?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Im not sure I understand your question.Maximus Rex said:Question, how did inquiring about her having a boyfriend help your game?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Man, the party was last weekendsquirrels said:Fuggit. Go have a good time. Like you would at any party. Just don't stay up her ass all night like she was your mom at your 3rd birthday party...get out there and mingle.
Parties aren't dates, so don't expect anything. She may even end up hooking up with someone else. But that's OK, because you get a chance to expand your social circle and work on your social skills. Maybe even find NEW girls to mess around with. Parties are opportunities, man. Not trials.
Why did you ask about her having a boyfriend? By you asking about her having a boyfriend, your giving her an "out." If she did have a boyfriend, she would've clearly volunteered that information on her on. I figured by you asking the question, you had a definite reason as to why you asked it.mellowmood23 said:Im not sure I understand your question.