"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Urgent: Dilemma should I go for it?
- Thread starter Konada
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Bingo-Player
Master Don Juan
RangerMIke
Master Don Juan
Just be cool with her an tell her hit u up at 18
dont be messing with underage chicks bro. ive had dates with 18 year olds an Im like let me see that ID...i dont even agree to meet unless they are willing to prove age upon meeting.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Building_and_Loan
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If you're above 17, I'm going with no.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
She had better have a real ID with her, too. If she doesn't, she's lying about being 16.
The question is, if she lies to you about her age shows you fake ID are you still accountable?
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Yes, absolutely. You had better be good at scrutinizing that ID.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
So if a 15 year old girl has a professionally made fake ID and birth certificate showing she's 16... you're going to jail?
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Seems to directly conflict with common sense: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Common_sense
dustmuffin
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