"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Urgent: Dilemma should I go for it?
- Thread starter Konada
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Bingo-Player
Master Don Juan
RangerMIke
Master Don Juan
Just be cool with her an tell her hit u up at 18
dont be messing with underage chicks bro. ive had dates with 18 year olds an Im like let me see that ID...i dont even agree to meet unless they are willing to prove age upon meeting.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Building_and_Loan
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If you're above 17, I'm going with no.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
She had better have a real ID with her, too. If she doesn't, she's lying about being 16.
The question is, if she lies to you about her age shows you fake ID are you still accountable?
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Yes, absolutely. You had better be good at scrutinizing that ID.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
So if a 15 year old girl has a professionally made fake ID and birth certificate showing she's 16... you're going to jail?
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Seems to directly conflict with common sense: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Common_sense
dustmuffin
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