"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Update: Struggling to lose Torso weight

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Interesting point was raised by a nutritionist in the gym, regards to me losing weight and sleeping.

Ive been drinking lots of caffeine for 20 years, I go through little bouts where i stop but it creeps back in.

he said if my REM sleep pattern is dodgy and caffeine is activating my stress gland , I categorically will get muffin tops and no matter what training i do, muscle will take ages to progress, and fat will not go around the hips. He said it also explains why everywhere else on my body, looks better Bodyfat %

interesting observation and its reinforced caffeine leaving my life, will update this post as i go on
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Interesting point was raised by a nutritionist in the gym, regards to me losing weight and sleeping.

Ive been drinking lots of caffeine for 20 years, I go through little bouts where i stop but it creeps back in.

he said if my REM sleep pattern is dodgy and caffeine is activating my stress gland , I categorically will get muffin tops and no matter what training i do, muscle will take ages to progress, and fat will not go around the hips. He said it also explains why everywhere else on my body, looks better Bodyfat %

interesting observation and its reinforced caffeine leaving my life, will update this post as i go on
Yes, lack of sleep is one of the biggest stress events the body could ever have. If you routinely don't get enough sleep it will effect hormone levels negatively.
 

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Yes, lack of sleep is one of the biggest stress events the body could ever have. If you routinely don't get enough sleep it will effect hormone levels negatively.
this explains my slow muscle gains and muffin tops that wont go.

Hopefully now i can resolve
 

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Comes to down diet and sleep brother

If our grandparents didn't eat it/have a lot of it, we probably don't need it. This eliminates 90% of the good tasting, but bad for your health, stuff
 

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Lack of sleep definitely affects adrenal glands which in turn is how cortisol (stress hormone) is released. Cut the caffeine to morning coffee only and you may want to look into intermittent fasting. Works well to control calonie intake and honestly fasting is fantastic for the body.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Ive completely cut caffeine out, its been 8 days now. I go on on complete binges of anything that sets my dopamine off , so Im best off severing my relationship with it

my gut has settled and waist come down from all the inflammation, gout in my big toe has also gone.
 

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Ive completely cut caffeine out, its been 8 days now. I go on on complete binges of anything that sets my dopamine off , so Im best off severing my relationship with it

my gut has settled and waist come down from all the inflammation, gout in my big toe has also gone.
Drink lots of water...when you are dehydrated the body tries to hold in water and you end up bloated. When you are properly hydrated the body releases water so you end up without all the water weight.
 

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Drink lots of water...when you are dehydrated the body tries to hold in water and you end up bloated. When you are properly hydrated the body releases water so you end up without all the water weight.
have done my friend
 
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